What Happens When Mr. Right Walks into the Room {An Uncommon Love: Chapt. 3}

An Uncommon Love - What Happens When Mr. Right Walks into the Room

 *This is Chapter 3 of An Uncommon Love – our true-life love story. You can also catch up by reading Chapter One: If He was the Last Man on Earth and Chapter Two: Where Is She? {Searching For My Forever Girl}

I knew it as soon as he entered the room.

He walked through the doorway with his confident stride. Wearing a thick, manly sweater, black Levi’s, and western boots.  Tall, dark, and handsome, just like she said.

With those unforgettable blue eyes.

It’s possible I fell in love at that very moment. At that very first dinner party.

No, surely not?

I mean, no one really falls in love with a pair of boots . . . do they?

No, of course, they don’t.

So maybe it was his smile.  Or his honest expression.

Or it might very well have been those beautiful blue eyes.

But mostly . . . mostly it was his soul. Somehow his soul came clear through. Shone a bright light right across the room and then settled deep into my own.

And in that moment I knew.

There is the man I am going to marry.

Just like that. Simple, straightforward, and as distinct as if a Voice had spoken.

There he is. Your future husband. Right there.

All of this happened in an instant. This sense that the rest of my life was standing tall before me. I felt surprisingly calm considering the implications.

My one thought?  Wow. I can’t wait to get to know him. This man I’m going to marry.

Wait A Second Here . . .

Wait a second . . . I thought Lisa said something about, “If he was the last man on earth, she wouldn’t date him .” Now she’s ready to marry him? ?

And you’re right.  I did say that. And  I meant it too.

But a lot had happened in the 8 months since that disastrous first meeting and the horrendous lunch that followed.

You see, God had been working in me.

Over time, He had been slowly softening my heart and showing my need to listen to Him. Because up until then, I had been the one calling the shots in my love life. Telling Him what I did – and did not – want in a man.  I was determined to stay in control.

I wanted to be in charge.

Yet my Heavenly Father had been gently pressing on me that I needed to learn to trust Him with my heart. That He could and would take care of me . . . if I would only let Him.

So, yes, a lot happened over those 8 months.

Which is why I could make that shocking announcement on New Year’s Eve.

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A Surprising New Year’s Resolution

The table fell silent for a minute or two.

All my friends became quiet, not sure if they should laugh,  sympathize, or . . . what.

It was New Year’s Eve and we were all lightheartedly sharing our resolutions. Some were semi-serious and others were less so. We went around the table and each of us had something that we’d hoped to aspire to in the coming year.

Then came my turn …

I’m going to get married this year, I announced as if it was the most natural thing in the world.

And while there’s certainly nothing unnatural about a 26 year old girl getting married, there was this slight problem.

I wasn’t dating anyone and hadn’t for several years.

Not only was I not dating, I wasn’t even acquainted with any eligible guys.

And then my friends couldn’t contain themselves any longer and burst into laughter. They considered my statement as something of a big joke.

I considered it something of a big step of faith.

Give the Guy A (Second) Chance

Which brings us to March 13, 1992 and the evening of the dinner party.

A few weeks previous to the party, my friend Linda had called me and once again asked if I’d be coming up to Portland anytime soon. Her boss really did want to meet me, she assured me, and this time it was his idea.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but she had been busy praying for the two of us, truly believing that we were meant for each other.

And wouldn’t you know it? One day, that boss of hers (you know, the proud, arrogant one?) walked by her desk and mentioned in passing, “You remember that friend of yours? The girl down in California? Well, I really would be interested in taking her out, if she was ever up this way again.” And kept walking.

I believe my phone was ringing about three minutes later.

And as it turned out, I was coming up to Portland in a couple of weeks.

You know . . . to be a bridesmaid.

For the 13th time.

Yes, I’m serious. Sigh.

So I figured if I didn’t want to be a bridesmaid for the rest of my life, I’d better start opening up to the possibilities that came my way.

And this guy was definitely A Possibility.

Because in spite of the bad impression he had first made on me, he had a very good reputation everywhere else.  He was known to be a sincere and godly man, kind and considerate, along with a fun sense of humor. Not a bad combination, as far as I was concerned.

Maybe I should give him a second chance . . .

An Uncommon Love - The Dinner Party That Changed Everything

The Dinner Party That Changed Everything

The dinner party was a dream.

Mr. Blue Eyes walked straight over to me and began a conversation that might have gone on forever.

Except that our hostess called us to dinner abruptly reminding us that there were other people in the world. Or at least other people in the room.

So I had to settle for staring at him from across the table.

Because by then I was in love.

I was looking at the man I was going to marry. He was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with—talking, laughing, and loving together.

My happily-ever-after.

My very own Mr. Right.

At the end of the evening, we stood out in the driveway and talked some more before we each went our separate ways. He threw something out, like maybe we should get together again before I went back down to L.A.? And that was about it.

So I was left to wait.

Waited and waited through the longest week-end of my life.

I was to be in Portland for only 8 days. Eight. Now 3 were down and we had only five left.

So what was taking him so long to  call me ??

To be continued . . . .

An Uncommon Love - A True Life Love Story by Matthew and Lisa Jacobson

Matthew will be taking it from here next Wednesday!

*Just for fun, what are some of the neat qualities that first attracted you to your husband? Please share! :)

In His grace,
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*Chapter One: If He Was the Last Man On Earth

*Chapter Two: Where Is She? Searching for My Forever Girl
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Free Printable: 17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment

17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshement  - Printable

Sometimes my husband comes in and says to me, Will you just sit down?

Stop what you’re doing and rest a while.

And I start to protest. Explain to him all that I have to do and take care of and finish up and . . . .

And I forget that one of the things I need to do? The thing that you need to do too?

Is rest.

Refresh.

Maybe you’re too tired, too busy to even remember what it means to renew your body and soul.

So here’s a new “To Do” list for you.

Yesterday I wrote down all these creative ways to rest. For you and for me. Bunches of different ways we can find a little quiet and renewal.

You can post it on your refrigerator or your bathroom mirror – anywhere that you can see it and be reminded that God designed for you to rest too.

Rest, my friend, and be refreshed.

(Click the link below to download as a free printable)

17 Wonderful Ways to Find Rest & Refreshment – Printable

 

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Resting in Him,

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17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment

17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest and Refreshment

Poured out.

That’s how I’d describe it.

Not simply tired or busy, but completely poured out.

It wasn’t a complaint or even a whine. Just a stated fact.

I was run-down.

Now please understand, I LOVE what I do. I love being a wife and I’m happy being a mom. I enjoy running our home and I’m grateful for church and ministry.

But sometimes . . . sometimes, I get worn out. Plain and simple. With nothing left to give.

And that’s not a good place for a woman to find herself in, is it?

Done in and wiped out.

So I’ve learned that if I’m going to do this thing—this wifely-motherly-homemakey-workey-ministry thing—for the long-term? Then I needed to figure out how to find rest and refreshment so I can have what it takes to pour out to others.

A lot like you.

I need to stop. Rest. Restore. Refresh.

Now I can almost hear you protesting from here . You’ve got young children. You work two jobs. You’re taking care of your parents, or maybe his. You’ve been ill, or someone in your family has been sick. Possibly for a long time. You’re homeschooling, or carpooling, or running a ministry.

You can’t stop . . . and yet you’re poured out.

So today I’m going to share – not just one way, but 17 wonderful ways you can find rest and refreshment. And maybe you can’t do all of them, but I’m certain you can pull off at least one of them. Probably more, if you set your mind to it.

So pause a moment, won’t you? And rest along the way. 

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17 Wonderful Ways a Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment

  1. Go for a walk.  Not only does a walk refresh your heart and mind, but it can also refresh your body. If I can’t get my walk in earlier in the day, I’ll pop something in the oven and when my husband gets home I’ll give him that look – the one that says I think I just might go insane if I don’t get out for some fresh air.
  2. Run a hot bath. Soaking in a warm tub, with a drop or two of essential oils, eases my stress and tired body. Makes you sleep better that night too!
  3. Read a good book. I don’t even know if I can explain it, but when I got lost in a good book, it soothes my mind and renews my perspective.(Here’s a great recommendation if you want one: Evidence Not Seen.)
  4. Change your attitude. It’s amazing how much more energy you have when you’re not fighting against what God has called you to do. So if you sense you have resistance?  Then repent, rejoice, and see how renewed you feel!
  5. Sing a song. We used to take our children on these long hikes and toward the end, when their little bodies were starting to droop, we’d sing a song the last way down the mountain. Well, it works for grown-ups too!
  6. Create a place of rest. See this swing on our front porch? This small spot of sunshine? This is one of my best places of rest. Slipping out there for a few moments does my weary spirit good (even if a small person sometimes finds me there – see #9).Swinging
  7. Pray quietly. When it’s crazy-busy and everyone is bustling about, maybe whining and crying (and that would include me too), I’ll slip back to my bedroom, kneel down, and say a small prayer. Asking God to give the strength and grace needed to carry out this day. *Highly recommended
  8. Give thanks. This one is closely related to #4 above. Rather than focus on the trials and the challenges, begin giving thanks – preferably aloud – for all the blessings that you enjoy. You just might have more than you remembered.
  9. Snuggle up. With someone you love. My personal favorite.  Taking a few minutes to cuddle with a little person . . . or maybe that Man of Yours, if he’s around. Or sometimes I just give hugs all around – from the youngest to our teens!
  10. Cancel an activity. Ha! You didn’t even know you could do this, did you! Well, you can. The world will still keep going ’round, even if you do cancel a class, a meeting, or event (I know, because I’ve tried it).
  11. Take a power nap. This is one of my secret weapons: the 20 minute power nap. Fan, ear plugs, covers over my head . . . and recharge! Try it, you’ll find it works wonders.
  12. Do something you love. Maybe this seems counter-intuitive, but sometimes doing something is even more refreshing than doing nothing. For me that might mean baking homemade bread, but for you it might mean painting, scrapbooking, writing, or building. Take an hour and just do it! You’ll feel better when you do. Rest and Refreshment - Making Bread
  13. Call a friend. Talk on the phone or see if she can meet you for coffee. Being able to laugh, cry, or share my struggles with a friend can be very healing.
  14. Turn in early. Another ha! Go to bed at an insanely early hour. Don’t watch TV, close your computer (well, after you’ve read this post, of course), forget the nagging piles, and just. Go. To. Sleep. I’m telling ya, 8 hours of sleep can make you into a new woman!
  15. Slip away for a short break. Schedule a break, dear lady. No one (no one!) was made to keep going 24 hours a day, 7 days a week–and that even includes you. Get creative if you have to, but make it happen.
  16. Soak in the truth of Scripture. Place Bible verses strategically around your house or work area that remind you of Who you can rest in. (You can get free printable Scripture cards right here.)
  17. Enjoy the beauty of God’s creation. Just stepping outside and enjoying what the Creator has designed can reach your soul and renew your spirit. Wherever you live, look up at the vast sky or find a small flower that fills you with joy and wonder.  (I love to share the beauties of the Pacific Northwest here.)

Rest and Refreshment - The Three Sisters Mountains

Don’t you feel better already? Knowing  you have all these wonderful options? I thought you might.

Pick one to try . . . and then another.  Maybe even one a day!

Rest, my friend, and be refreshed. 

For I will satisfy the weary soul, and every languishing soul I will replenish. ~ Jer. 31:25

*What are some of the ways you find rest and refreshment? I’d love to hear!

Resting in Him,

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P.S. Yes! Here’s a printable of these 17 Wonderful Ways. Something for you to hang up where you can see it when you’re too tired to think of ways to rest.

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Free Printable: 8 Scriptures for When You’re Needing Rest & Refreshment

8 Scripture Cards for When You're Needing Rest & Refreshment

Are you in need of some rest and refreshment? 

Yes?

Yeah, me too.

And I’ve had the most delightful opportunity to enjoy just that . . . in the beautiful state of Montana.

It felt so funny packing my suitcase and heading to the airport while it was still dark early this morning. I can hardly remember the last time I flew on a plane, all by myself.

I think I was pregnant with our 7th child.

Who is now 10 year old – if that gives you any idea.

I wish I could invite every one of you to come along! Wouldn’t that be lovely?

Well, we can’t quite pull that off, but at least I can share some of the pictures over on Instagram, if you’re over there.

AND I promise to later pass on the things that God presses upon my heart this week-end as I get to visit my dear friend Christy (who often writes for us here!) and attend a writers’ retreat with some other Christian friends gathering there.

I’ve actually been thinking a lot about Rest and Refreshment lately and how important it is to us as women and as believers in Christ. And here are 17 Wonderful Ways a Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment, if you’re looking for some creative ideas!

For now, let me share one of the very best ways – soaking in God’s Word and resting in Him. 

Scripture Cards for Rest and Refreshment Part 1
Click the link below to download these verses as a  free printable:

8 Scripture Cards for Rest and Refreshment – Part 1

8 Scripture Cards for When You're Needing Rest & Refreshment Part 2
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8 Scripture Cards for Rest and Refreshment – Part 2

Many blessings to you, my friends!

Resting in Him.

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