10 Marriage Books that I Love {Hope for a Joyful, Loving Relationship}

10 Marriage Books that I Love - Hope for a Joyful, Loving Relationship I was the hopelessly romantic teenager who read every book that I could get my hands on about relationships and marriage. The fact that I was already falling in love with the man who would be my husband made me an observant student of the marriages around me.

I read voraciously in an attempt to equip myself with even more knowledge about the mystery of marriage.

Even as I laughed at the appropriate word pictures of Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti, I nodded at the wisdom of Love and Respect. I soaked up the advice in Letters to Karen, while I highlighted many a line in Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

And slowly, the grain separated from the chaff.

I skimmed more than a few of the formulaic, five-step books about marriage. But the negative emphasis of so many of them left me feeling hopeless.

Instead, it was the books that told the truth about marriage in light of our human sin and selfishness that I kept on my shelves.

It was the practical, down-to-earth, don’t-mince-words kind of books that made a powerful impact on my relationships.

It was the books that gave me hope for a joyful, loving marriage with God at the center that gave me the perspective I’d need to carry me through these first ten years.

These are the books I recommend in a heartbeat when a friend asks for my favorite books on marriage. These are the books I leave stacked beside our bed so that I don’t forget to re-read them.

These are the books that have colored the lenses through which I view love and marriage . . . .

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10 Marriage Books that I Love

1. I, Isaac, Take Thee, Rebekah by Ravi Zacharias

This little gem is an excellent read for single and married alike. My husband and I enjoyed re-reading it recently, soaking up the insight into marital and family relationships that Ravi draws from this old, old love story. Available here –>

2. Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas

Gary Thomas doesn’t mince words. Neither does he think God intended marriage to make us happy, but rather to make us holy. That premise makes for an incredibly hard-hitting but excellent book on marriage. Available here –>

3. Sacred Influence by Gary Thomas

I have learned a lot from books about marriage written by women, for women. But there’s nothing like having a man explain how what a woman does can make him feel. This book is convicting yet encouraging. A must-read. Available here –>

4. Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney

Feminine Appeal is the Let Me Be a Woman of this generation. Filled with quotes from Elisabeth Elliot as well as many other classic authors, it combines the wisdom of yesteryear with solid, practical, biblical Titus 2 style advice. Highly recommended reading for every woman (and older teen girl). Available here –>

5. Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes

I was given this book at my bridal shower and found it filled with sound biblical advice written in a fun and conversational style. Available here –>

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6. 100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson

The perfect book to have in your purse or next to your desk, this little gem of a book provides 100 brief reflections on the importance of love and marriage, in a quick and easy-to-read style. Available here –>

7. Dancing with the One You Love: Living Out Submission in the Real World by Cindy Easley

This book will challenge your thinking about what submission looks like. Cindy shares many real-life stories (Janet Parshall’s is one of my favorite!) about how submission has played out in other marriages. Destroying stereotypes and redefining submission, this is an excellent read. Available here –>

8. For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn

This book is a fascinating glimpse into the way a man’s mind and heart work. Shaunti Feldhahn compiled survey results from over a thousand men to get the truth about the way men think and feel. No, the survey results don’t describe my man to a T. But the book still left me feeling empowered with understanding about how to better love, serve, and support my man. Available here –>

9. Love That Lasts: When Marriage Meets Grace by Gary and Betsy Ricucci

This little book is practical and challenging. The Ricuccis combine biblical theology with sound marriage advice, inspiring you to change without making you feel like a failure. An excellent wedding gift! Available here –>

10. The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller

The modern-day version of C.S. Lewis’ The Four Loves, this is a deep read. It’s the kind of book that will challenge singles as well as married couples. It sets truth and fact squarely against cultural norms and traditional theories. Available here –>

I’d love to hear what books have shaped your perspective on marriage and inspired you to love your husband better! *Please share them in the comments…..

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Does Your Husband Understand You? {Two Small Things That Would Make A World of Difference}

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My husband and I talk a lot about how hard it is for men to understand women. We wives are so hard to figure out.

John once asked an older man if he understood his wife,

After all these years, do you understand your wife?

“Understand her—no way,” this sage man responded- “enjoy her, yes!”

His comment made my husband roar in laughter, but it also encouraged him.

In thinking about this I have found an image, which I hope, might help your husband or other men as they seek to understand our needs.


Picture for a moment a flashlight. One that takes 2 “Double A” batteries.

Over time it’s easy for these batteries to grow dim. They just get worn down. Sometimes one will go out before the other. Soon the flashlight will begin to flicker and the light will fade. It’s time to recharge, to put new batteries into your flashlight.

We women need two batteries to keep us bright.  Our “Double A’s” are appreciation and affection. These qualities can be rare in our worlds.

Appreciation. A 4 year old is not likely to say to his exhausted Mom, “Wow, Mom, you are doing a good job raising me.” There’s not a lot of appreciation for laundry done, dinner fixed, clothes washed.   It’s a rare husband who says, “Thanks honey for carpooling the kids all over the place today. I appreciate you.” A comment like that would do wonders to increase our battery life!

Affection is the second of our batteries that can become depleted. It’s hard for us women to get excited about sex if we haven’t experienced affection. It can make us feel cheap or used. Simply greeting us with a hug at the end of the day and saying, “I missed you today,” can help to recharge our battery. Give us a hug in front of the kids while exclaiming, “I love this woman, ” and you hit the jackpot! A phone call or text message just to say, Hope you are having a good day, can make a huge difference.

It’s a wise man who asks himself if his wife’s batteries need to be recharged. They probably do! As you men take steps to recharge them don’t be discouraged if we women don’t respond right away. Sometimes it takes repeated efforts. Just persist and we will lighten up in due time!

I hope you ladies will pass this along to your husband. It just might help him to realize that you are normal!


Susan Alexander Yates

15 Romantic Gift Ideas for the Man You Love*Ready for Valentine’s?  Here are 15 surprisingly romantic (and affordable) gift ideas for the man you love! 

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15 Surprisingly Romantic Gift Ideas for The Man You Love

15 Romantic Gift Ideas for the Man

We are hopeless romantics. He and I. 

And, yes, we realize that this doesn’t really fit with the times we live in. Everything comes at you so fast and so much is quick and disposable.

No time for slow. Thoughtful. Hopeful. ‘Til death do you part.

But for some reason we still hang onto our old-fashioned romance.

We still hold hands.

We still kiss on the lips.

We still give little love-gifts and whisper words of kindness.

And while we recognize that this is only small stuff, we consider such things as a kind of glue that connects our two hearts.

So we keep it going. Even after all these years. Even though it goes against the flow of the world we live in.

It’s also why – after having 8 children and over two decades of marriage – we still celebrate Valentine’s Day like a couple of young lovers. 

Matthew and Lisa Jacobson in WinterAnd we still enjoy giving cards and small gifts to one another.

As far as I’m concerned, I think he has it somewhat easy. Chocolate. Flowers. Books. Jewelry. And that’s just off the top of my head!

But finding something “hopelessly romantic” for him? That’s another matter.

He used to tell me, “Oh, don’t bother. I don’t want anything anyway.” But that’s no fun! How can you “exchange” gifts if only one of you is giving? Exactly.

So over the years, I’ve found some neat gift ideas that he actually liked – far more than he probably thought he would. Things that he wouldn’t necessarily buy for himself, but enjoyed all the same.

Surprisingly romantic gifts.

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And I’m sharing with you some of those ideas today….

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1. Deejo Linerlock Red 27Gram Knife

So you don’t think a knife should be considered as romantic? But didn’t you notice that it is red? And don’t forget that many men are drawn to these things. I know because I asked a group of guys in our church and received an enthusiastic “yes!” in reply.  This is that surprisingly part of romantic gifts for men. Available here.

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2. Just the Ticket: Ticket Stub Organizer

Have you ever seen one of these? I thought this was such a great idea! It’s a ring-bound book where you can keep and record any special concerts, shows, trips, and sporting events. I don’t know about you, but I’m always finding various ticket stubs and receipts scattered across my husband’s desk. So here’s a creative way to gather all those memories in one place! Available here.

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3. Luxury Sweetheart Gift from Bend Soap Company

Ah yes, surprising isn’t it? Now hang in there with me on this one. It’s true: my husband is not likely to sink down into the tub on his own. BUT if I invite him to join me….and offer to scrub his back….Well, that’s another matter entirely. And soaking in a soothing tub together….?  ROMANTIC.

More details on soaps, scrubs, lotions, and gift sets available here. (And because they’re good friends of ours, they’re offering $5 off for the gift set. Just use the coupon code LOVE31. )

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4. Mrignt Mens Multi-Pockets Zipper Denim Vest Jacket

You know how we women get a little swoony when we get a beautiful new sweater as a gift? Well, for some reason, a manly, multi-pocketed vest seems to have the same affect on a man. I’m not sure I can even explain it. It’s just their thing. And far more romantic than it might first appear. Available here.

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5. Cook Up Something Special Just for Him

So you’ve heard that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? Some truth there. So cook up his favorite comfort food like maybe this Beef Stroganoff, or try something new and fabulous such as these Rosemary Salmon steaks. Put on a movie for the kids or wait until they’ve gone to bed, and then enjoy a long, romantic dinner for two.

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6. Scratch Map World

Whether your husband has traveled – or could imagine where he’d like to travel someday – this map would be fun to have on his wall. Maybe even the two of you could dream together about the places you’ve been and the places you’d like to go! Available here. 

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7. Deluxe Hot Sauce Making Kit

So at first I thought it was just my husband, but when I mentioned the idea to my friends? Many of them said their husbands would love this too. Kit includes everything you need for making 6 sauces and you can do it at home! I’m going to resist the obvious remarks about it being *hot*….although it’s very tempting! Available here. 

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8. Complete Shaving Kit

My husband has a beard and mustache, but if he didn’t? I’d definitely want to get this kit for him. This is waaaayy more romantic than disposable razors (and cheaper to replace than expensive cartridges)! He might not get it for himself, but if you gave it to him….? Might be just the thing! Available here.

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9. Beard Pack

As my own man has a beard and has for many years now, I’d be inclined to go this direction. The pack includes two beard oils (by Grave Before Shave – get it?), pine tar soap (manly!), and a switchblade. It doesn’t come in a gift box, but would look nice in one of those inexpensive wood boxes you can pick up at most craft stores. This has a certain cool factor, plus it smells sooo wonderful! Available here.
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10. 100 Ways to Love Your Wife by Matthew L Jacobson

★★★★★A fantastic and practical read
This book was just great. It was a quick read but very practical. He gave you numerous examples on how to love your wife and examples of how not to. Some of the chapters were super short but since each chapter was one of the ways to love your wife it worked out. Great read! ~ Amazon review

I almost didn’t include this in our list here. But then we received so many enthusiastic “thank you’s”  recently from guys who found this book very helpful in their desire for a better marriage. It is full of short, practical and inspiring ways for a man to love his wife. And if you’re looking for “his and her” gifts, there’s the companion book for wives, 100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson (me!). Available here.

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11. Classic Genuine Leather Travelers Notebook

I wondered if this journal might have lost favor in the age of digital technology, but when I asked a group of guys about it? They all gave this one a big thumbs-up! So apparently, this is a timeless gift that he’s not likely to purchase for himself, but would be secretly thrilled to own one. Available here. 

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12. Pilot Metropolitan Collection Fountain Pen, Black Barrel, Classic Design

Super cool pen to go with his leather journal. Or maybe just a really amazing pen all on it’s own. It writes and looks like a very expensive pen, except that it’s surprisingly affordable. And surprisingly romantic. Available here.

Givenchy Play Intense by Givenchy

13. Casual Fragrance for Men:  Play Intense by Givenchy

My husband is not a big “cologne guy” but even he admitted that he liked this one. It has a light, classy scent – not overpowering – for the guy who just wants to smell nice. Know what I mean? Masculine. Available here.

Ciera Rose Carter Cards

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14. Handcrafted Cards from Ciera Rose

Our young friend and artist, Ciera Rose, creates and watercolors these adorable cards! (I know, “adorable” isn’t a very masculine word, but you know what I mean, right?). On some years, my husband and I have skipped the gifts and simply exchanged cards with one another. And I’ve kept every one of them in a keepsake box. True treasures. Ciera Rose card collection available here.

Timex Men's Expedition Uplander Watch with Camo Nylon Band

15. Timex Men’s Expedition Uplander Watch with Camo Nylon Band

I’ll take the pearl necklace anyday, but for him….? An expedition watch is more like it. And this one communicates “adventure” and “challenge” and “conquer” all in one and at a decent price. Available here. 

So there it is….15 surprisingly romantic gifts for the man you love.

Happy Valentine’s to the both of you!

Heart Roses*My husband, Matthew, also put together this creative list of Valentine’s Gift Ideas for Your Wife! (And, no, we don’t “peek” at each other’s ideas, in case you were wondering! :)

In His grace,

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What Marriage Taught Me About Love, Courage, and A Little Homemade Bread

What Marriage Can Teach About Love, Courage, and Homemade Bread

You could tell it came as something of a surprise.

I mean, that I’d even consider attempting the thing at all.

Everyone knew how utterly inept I was in the kitchen. So this announcement was rather unlike me and his astonishment was understandable.

I had decided to bake bread.

Real bread. With wheat kernels, yeast, oil and salt. Starting from scratch and made with my own hands.

It’s hard to guess what got into me. Not that I didn’t love food and everything surrounding it. I was an avid subscriber to the magazines – Cook’s Illustrated, Food & Wine, Saveur – and devoured every issue. I collected cookbooks and watched Julia Child reruns after our babies were tucked in bed. I mentally rehearsed the delicious recipes, picturing each step and the scrumptious smells that would surely accompany it.

Yet it was all pretend. Make-believe. A kind of game I played.

Because the truth was – I was afraid of the kitchen.

Afraid of mistakes.

Oh, the chefs made it sound so easy. But I knew better. I was closely acquainted with the unpredictable nature of cooking and baking. Anything could go terribly wrong at anytime and you might well be mocked for it. Teased, put down, and reminded of your failed chocolate cake for years to come.

No, the kitchen was not a safe place – not if you didn’t want to get hurt.

My dear husband understood how it was for me and had tried to convince me otherwise, but I wouldn’t hear it.

Couldn’t do it.

So instead he supplied me with all sorts of beautiful cooking magazines and books, hoping to somehow satisfy the hunger he could see in the eyes of his new bride.

Never mentioning the irony of the Kraft Macaroni & Cheese box propped up against the Barefoot Contessa. Never complaining about the burnt casseroles or tasteless store-bought cakes. It was as though he loved me no matter what I did, or how things turned out. And, in the end, that’s probably what persuaded me.

Looking back, I’d say he loved me into the kitchen.

What Marriage Taught Me About Love, Courage and Homemade Bread

So there I stood, suddenly determined to bake bread. Of all things. Coming as big of a surprise to me as it was to him.

I buried my hands into the warm, freshly-ground flour and started scooping the stuff into a large, white bowl. Added the yeast, golden oil, raw honey, and sea salt.

Then began mixing and kneading.

Pushing and pulling. Raising and baking.

And voila! (got that from Julia Child)

Six gorgeous loaves of homemade bread. Complete with the toasty, tantalizing aroma I’d always imagined. Just like in the magazines.

The best was yet to come, however, the part that’s not possible to capture on those glossy pages. That moment when my husband and young children gathered to devour one slice after another of the heavenly loaves.

Not that they were perfect.

Far from it. They were a bit doughy in the middle. Could use a pinch more salt. And I should’ve let them cool longer before removing from the pans.

Mistakes, I suppose.

Although there wasn’t any mocking or scoffing here.

No. Quite the contrary.

My small family looked up at me with their adoring faces as if I’d somehow done something fabulous. Something courageous.  Certainly, something wonderful.

But all I’d done was a bit of baking.

Simply shared a little love from my kitchen.

And a slice of homemade bread.

In His grace,

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*Here’s the same recipe I’ve been using for 18 years…Bon appetit!

Whole Wheat Bread Recipe

And here’s my Whole Wheat Bread Ingredient Kit for those who are interested

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25 Warm-Your-Heart Winter Date Ideas

25 Warm-Your-Heart Winter Date IdeasI don’t think anyone ever really means for their love to grow cold.

And I’m not saying that ours is any chillier than when we first began.

Over twenty-three years ago.

But I will tell you that we find ourselves emerging from a very challenging season. And maybe you know what that’s like?

And I say “emerging” although that’s a rather optimistic statement considering not much has changed.

We’re still caring for Matthew’s dad who is on hospice and Matthew’s mom who is in the final stages of Alzheimer’s. And we’re still the parents of 8 children, including a daughter with special needs.

Still homeschooling.

Still writing and involved in ministry.

But we’ve found that with all these “stills” that we’ve had to do a lot more “divide and conquer” than we would like.

And it’s easy for our to-do’s to get in front of our vows of I-do.

Yet we’re determined to not let that ever happen. We’re committed to keeping our love alive and our hearts warm.

So even when everything is swirling all around us, we will slip away for a much-needed winter date. Simple, inexpensive, and fun. 

And we are always – always – glad we did.

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25 Warm-Your-Heart Winter Date Ideas

1. Bundle up and go for a walk.

This is probably our favorite (and cheapest) thing to do! The picture above is of him and me on a chilly Pacific Northwest day – and he offered me his coat to keep me warm. *swoon*

2. Get out the ice- skates and find a frozen lake or rink.

We live in this really cute western town where they have a tiny, old-fashioned rink – complete with twinkly lights – and you can skate for something like $5 if you have your own skates.  You can find skating rinks in many cities, so it’s worth checking out…and oh, so romantic!

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3. Enjoy a hot coffee together.

Latte means love. Well, at least I think it does. And he knows it. So he’ll often grab me and we’ll head out to one of our favorite coffee places to sip and talk for hours.

4. Head up to the nearest slope and go sledding!

For us, that just means the hill at the end of our driveaway (terribly convenient) OR we might drive up the mountain and find a more challenging run.  Some years we’ve used “real” sleds and other years we grabbed whatever we could find in the garage. Either way, there’s a lot of screaming…all from me. :)

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5. Roast s’mores over an open fire.

Now we happen to have a fireplace where we can do this right in our own living room if we want, but we’ve also made them outside over the fire pit. And don’t just settle for Hershey’s Chocolate Bars…Try Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, MilkyWay bars, or go gourmet with Dark Chocolate with Sea Salt!

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6. Head up the mountain for some skiing or snowboarding.

We have a number of friends who love a day on the slopes. It’s a great way to get exercise, enjoy the winter, and enjoy time together all at the same time!

7. Order Chinese take-out or Japanese sushi.

Maybe this isn’t your thing, but we think it’s good fun to try new tastes  – and it counts as a date because we don’t have any dishes to wash either.

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8. Get set up for a game night.

Nothing like a little friendly competition over a game of Scrabble or Boggle or Settlers of Catan! And I always end up laughing as he tries to get away with some made-up word. Guess it’s worth a try?

9. Start a snowball fight.

Seriously. A good snowball fight can do amazing things for your marriage. Especially if you win. 😉

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10. Take a horse-drawn carriage ride.

Might sound cheesy to you, but I think it’s wonderfully romantic. And sweet. And memorable. So do it, if you can.


11. Curl up and watch an old movie.

So when he walks into the door and smells the popcorn…and wonders why the house is so quiet (kids are not allowed)…that’s when he knows it’s movie night! Personally, we enjoy BBC period pieces like Wives & Daughters or Pride & Prejudice. But sometimes we’ll just watch an oldie like The African Queen. Occasionally, we’ll watch something more recent like Hundred Foot Journey – and now War Room is out!

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12. Go play in the snow.

Not that you have to go dog-sledding. I just liked this picture. But you CAN build a snowman or a snow-fort, if you have enough snow!

13. Plan an indoor picnic for two.

This is more fun – and easier – than one might think! I first got the idea from a friend who sent us off on our honeymoon with a basket full of goodies to eat. We arrived at our destination on a cold, rainy night and had the best time enjoying our “picnic on the floor.” But you don’t have to be on your honeymoon to enjoy a picnic for two!

Chocolate truffles

14. Try out a Chocolate Tasting.

How could you go wrong with this one? Occasionally either he or I will pick up some various chocolates – it could be simply a variety of bars from the grocery store OR (my preference) a splurge at the local chocolate shoppe – and we’ll sample and “evaluate” each one. Mmmm!

Winter Date Ideas

15. Be brave and join a dance class.

What a wonderful way to spend a winter evening! Haven’t you always wanted to learn how to swing dance or ballroom dance or….? Yes? If you (or he) are too shy to attend a class, you could always attempt to learn at home. At the very least, it will be good for laughs!

16. Snuggle up by the fire.

Or heater, if must be. The point is that a cold winter is a good excuse for extra snuggling up. Maybe talking. Maybe not. Just being close.

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17. Sip on hot chocolate.

Do we ever outgrow our love for hot chocolate? I don’t think so. But as a grown-up, you might want to try the more gourmet hot chocolates out there – something like Moonstruck Chocolate Mayan (with cinnamon and almond – yum!) OR  Moonstruck Dark Chocolate Hot Cocoa Mix.


18. Put on a pizza night!

But not your basic take-out pizza…Instead, why not bake one at home together! Yes, I mean that. You can follow the recipe for this Garlic Three-Cheese Pizza from catzinthekitchen and you’ll probably fall in love all over again. With the pizza, if not with each other! :)

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19. Check out the winter rates of some of your favorite getaways.

Now hang in there with me. I know you’re probably thinking, Hey! That doesn’t sound “inexpensive.” And maybe it’s not compared to a $10 Coffee Date BUT you might be surprised to find out how much less expensive it is to the regular cost of going there. Often resorts and other similar places offer discounted off-season rates and it might be more affordable than you thought.


20. Cook up something yummy for him (or him…for her!).

Like this amazing Tiramisu Cake that Joshua Rief made for his wife for her birthday. Um, hello? Is that the most deliciously romantic thing you’ve ever heard of? Espresso. Mascarpone cheese. Cocoa. Dark chocolate. Cognac. Chocolate-covered espresso beans. Yikes. That’s all I can say.

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21. Enjoy a quiet evening reading together.

Sometimes he will read aloud to me or at other times, we will each read our own books and share bits from them. For instance, you could both be reading your 100 Ways to Love books and pick out one way you want to love each other better! 100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson (me!) or 100 Ways to Love Your Wife by Matthew L Jacobson (him!).

22. Soak it up in a hot bubble bath.

Our tub is large enough to fit us both (is that considered TMI?), so we enjoy sinking deep into the bubbles and talk or flirt as we feel. We both find it very relaxing, as well as a lovely way to connect. (Probably more my thing than his, but he’s become a good sport.)

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23.  Go for a snowshoe adventure.

Many places let you rent snow shoes (or buy for a fairly reasonable price) and you can go most anywhere on them. I’ve also heard that it’s nice to go out under a moonlight night – either on your own (just be safe!) or on a guided tour. Adventure and romance!


24. Go bowling.

There. I said it. But please don’t tell my husband because I don’t actually like bowling. But if he can take a bubble bath . . . then I suppose I can go bowling.

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25. Take off on a long, slow drive and take in the scenery.

I love this one. And because I married this guy who grew up in the sub-zero temperatures of Northern Canada, he really knows how to get around in the snow. So he drives and I sip my latte and take in the incredible beauty of winter. Breath-taking. 

Alright, there you have it! 25 wonderful ways to warm his heart and yours.

So why not make the most of this winter?

And turn the heat up.

In His grace,

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5 Tips for When He Is Wrong and You’re In the Right

5 Tips for When He Is Wrong and You're In the RightIf he would just listen to me – really hear me out – then we could be done with this argument and move on with our life!

Ever been there? Ever had those kind of thoughts?

I would venture to say we have all found ourselves in the position where we knew for a fact we were right and our husbands were wrong. If you’re like me, sometimes you want to grab him by the shoulders and give him a gentle – maybe not so gentle – shake and say, “I’m right!”

Fortunately, I don’t know many people who that has actually worked for. If they tried, I’m sure the complete opposite of what they wanted would happen.

So what’s a Christian girl to do?

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These are my 5 tips when he is wrong and you are right . . . some may surprise you.

1. Prayer. This is absolutely the best thing we can do.

We may indeed be right, but the only way for our husbands to see that is through a good old-fashioned heart change. A heart change from the only one who can, God. I have found that there is always a change of heart, but it may not be my husbands…it may be mine.

Psalm 51:10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.

2. An appeal. Once heated words have fizzled, try approaching him again, but in a humble way.

This should not be about pride or proving oneself. State your reason for why you feel a certain way then leave it at that. This is not, “Giving in,” but is kind, reverent, and thought-provoking.

3. Submission. There is such power in submission.

When we can yield to another even when we feel the urge to stomp around is delightful in the eyes of the Lord and is the ultimate use of self-control.

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

4. A quiet and gentle spirit.

I’ve tried nagging and it doesn’t work. In fact, it’s one of the quickest way to put a barrier up. Our husbands need and deserve our respect no matter what we feel in our hearts. Sometimes we just have to obey the Word of God and trust Him.

1 Peter 3:4 …but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

5. Captivate your thoughts.

When those of thoughts of shaking his shoulders flood through our mind we must take them captive immediately before they penetrate our hearts.

2 Corinthians 10:5 We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.

The arguments and disagreements will come—it’s inevitable. There must be a line that we as faithful women draw, a boundary.

We have to prayerfully know when to back down and trust God and let Him do His thing.

Our husband’s heart may change in the process, or it may be our own. The most important thing we can do is to invite Jesus in on it, on all aspects of our life. When we do this, the arguments are no longer in vain, but can be used for the glory of God to reveal hearts and bridge the differences together.

*How about you? Have you been in a similar situation and gave it to God? What changed?

Brittany, Sweet Country Roots

Brittany StyronBrittany Styron lives life in North Carolina. She is a believer in Jesus Christ, a wife, and momma to four amazing kids. She has a passion for country living, cooking, any thing vintage, gardening, homeschooling, and encouraging women in their roles as wives and mothers. She blogs honestly about all these things at Sweet Country Roots. You can find her on Facebook at facebook.com/sweetcountryroots

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