The Most Loving Thing I’ve Done For Our Marriage

The Most Loving Thing I've Done For Our Marriage

I’d like to think that there’s been a whole lot of loving done over the years.

I mean, so much can happen over decades of marriage, right? Good times. Hard times. Big sacrifices. Small ones. I’ve loved him through it all.

But what would be the most loving thing?

Would it be that gorgeous September morning when I vowed to love him “until death do us part”? Loving him.

Or maybe when I gave birth to our first child? The pain. The joy. Loving him.

Or maybe the 5th child . . . or the 8th? Loving him.

When I followed him across the country—and then back again? Loving him.

Or perhaps when I wept and prayed over him as I watched his vital signs drop in that cold hospital room. Oh, please God, desperately loving him.

Yes, lots of loving over the years. But the most loving thing? I’ve thought long and hard over this question.

The most loving thing I’ve done as his wife is to seek Christ.

That really would have to be it. Nothing has made a bigger difference in our relationship than my walk with God.

I don’t think I realized it at the time, when I first married him. You see, I was still young and something of a hopeful romantic. We had each other and that was what mostly mattered—him, me, and love. I just knew it was going to be beautiful.

And it has been beautiful.

But there were some things I didn’t anticipate we’d go through together.

I didn’t know then that there would be so many challenges. That we’d walk through grief, frustration, disappointment, and times when I could hardly see straight.

There was so much I didn’t know . . . .

Oh, and not only things about him and our life together, but about myself. I didn’t understand what kind of person I really was. I was determined to be the best wife I could be, but it was more difficult than I’d counted on.

I discovered I was more selfish than I thought. More stubborn. More moody and more self-serving.

I found that my determination to be the “most loving wife” wasn’t enough. I needed Christ. I needed to seek God with all my heart. I needed to let Him work in me and change me. I needed to trust Him with our marriage.

The Most Loving Thing I've Done for Our Marriage

If you want to love your spouse? 

The most loving thing you can do is . . .  

Love your God. Seek Him and devote your life to Him.

But from there you will seek the Lord your God and you will find Him, if you search after Him with all your heart and with all your soul. (Deut. 4:29)

Spend time in His Word. Soak it up and listen to what He is saying to you as you read through it.

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. (Ps. 119:105)

Go to Him in prayer. Thanking God and praising Him. Ask Him to do a work in you and in your marriage.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. (Phil. 4:6).

Walk in the Spirit. And not your own strength. Be filled with the Spirit of God.

But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh (Gal. 5:16)

If you ever find yourself wondering what you can do to love your Beloved better? To improve your marriage?

Then I’d tell you this: spend time with your God. Seek Him. Walk with Him. Love Him.

It’s the most loving thing you can do for your marriage.

In His grace,
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What Makes Love Hot in a Monogamous Marriage

What Makes Love Hot in a Monogamous Marriage

Since we’re good friends I feel like I can tell you this.

So, yeah, I went out on a hot date last Saturday night.

It all started with a new box of Cheerios and hearing the kids cheer. . . and then discovering we were out of milk.

He looked over at me. And I looked back at him. And we both knew what was coming.

But he asked me all the same, “Hey, Baby, wanna go on a milk-date with me?”

What girl could refuse an invitation like that?

Not this girl.

So we climbed into the car and drove the 20 minutes out to the Kalebaugh Family Farm where we pick up our farm-fresh milk each week-end.  Three gallons in three glass gallon jars.

Talking and laughing. Always holding hands.

Except when he pulls the car over and stops as the sun is setting behind the mountains so that we can . . . take pictures for Instagram (ha! Not what you were expecting, was it? ;) ).

Now maybe you’re thinking this doesn’t sound all that romantic. Possibly a bit dull.

But, baby, I’m telling ya, it doesn’t get much better than this!

Okay, so it’s not likely that anyone will ever write a best-selling novel about us or turn our story into a blockbuster movie.

But if you want to know the honest truth?

The best romances aren’t necessarily as exciting or thrilling (and certainly not fearful) as they make it sound. The best are quietly lived out each day, starting in the morning with a kiss, working and playing, caring for the kids, fixing dinner, and snuggling into each other at the end of the evening.

And it’s hotter than you might think. 

What Makes Love Hot in a Monogamous Marriage

What Makes Love Hot . . . In a Monogamous Marriage

Love is hot when a man and woman commit to staying together.

They’re not gonna give up or run out when the going gets tough. They’ve made a covenant and, by God’s grace, they’re gonna keep it.

And the two shall become one flesh, so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. (Mark 10:8-9)

Love is hot when he and she freely offer forgiveness to one another.

Neither are demanding, or even expecting, sinless perfection—but, by the same grace offered them, they’re going to forgive each other.

. . . bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. (Col. 3:13)

Love is hot when he cherishes her and she respects him.

They’re not vying for their own territory or despising the gift they’ve been given. They show a high regard for one another and consider their love something precious and beautiful.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Eph. 5:33)

Love is hot when he and she lovingly lay down their lives for each other.

Their desire is to bless and give generously – even sacrificially – out of love for the other person.

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. (John 15:13)

Love is hot when they’re grateful to grow old together.

Nothing is steamier than an older couple who’ve been walking decades together, holding hands, and stealing a kiss now and then.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

~ I Corinthians 13 ~

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So if you want a romantic way to celebrate love? Try this:

1.   Begin with a new box of cold cereal. (Old boxes work too, but the new ones are even better.)

2.  Make sure that you are out of milk.

3.  Grab that guy you love and run out to the farm . . . or to the store, if that’s where you go.

4.  Hold hands all the way there.

5.  Don’t forget to stop and take pictures of the sunset.

6.  Kiss alongside the road while you’re at it (okay, you caught us!).

7.  Hold hands all the way home.

8.  Then keep on kissing until you’re old.

Because a romantic moment can be as beautiful as running out of milk when you’ve got a big box of Cheerios.

Especially when it’s just the two of you.

Forever, Only, and Always.

And, baby, if you ask me?

That’s HOT.

In His grace,
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*That last photograph is of Matthew’s parents who’ve been married for over 60 years

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How to Draw Closer Together…When You’ve Drifted Apart {& Date-Night Giveaway}

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She wasn’t sure how it even happened.

It’s not what either of them had ever intended.

There was a time when she felt close to him, but now . . . somehow . . . they seemed so far away from each other.

I suppose they could blame it on the kids. I mean, it’s a lot of time and work to raise children.

Maybe it was her health issues and all that she’d gone through as of late.

Or maybe it was his job. It seemed to take everything out of him and he was away a lot of the time.

Perhaps it was all the problems with extended family, or the ministry. So much to do and so many people to care for.

In any case, here they both were. Living in the same home. Standing in the same spot. But feeling a cavernous distance between them.

So how do you draw closer together . . . when you’ve drifted so far apart?

7 Ways to Draw Closer Together

1.  Be the one to make the first move.  Don’t wait for him to start the steps forward. Reach across the span and see if you can’t bridge the distance.

2.  Be willing to open up.  Be the one who starts the discussion – just make sure it’s encouraging, building-up talk.  This isn’t the time to address all the things wrong with him, or what you’re unhappy about. Think of at least one small thing you can be thankful for and begin there.

3.   Please don’t give up.  No matter how discouraged you are with where you’re both at. Dig in for the long haul and determine to make it work.

4.   Slowly move together. In the same way you had slowly moved away. Lasting changes are often made incrementally and gently over time.  And before you know it, you’re looking back and seeing how far you’ve both come.

5.   Reach out for help.  Friends, we were not made to walk through this life alone. Call out to a friend, or a godly, older couple at your church that you can ask for help. Get professional counseling, if it’s necessary.  A wise, outside perspective can make all the difference in many cases.

6.   Pray for your marriage.  Ask God to renew your love for each other.  Ask Him to show you any blind spots or barriers that are between you. Pray with faith and pray for change. 

7.   Remember that you love each other.  Because sometimes we lose sight of that, don’t we? We get caught up in the busyness and pressures of daily life, that we forget that we actually like each other. That we used to be crazy-in-love with on another.

And when that happens?

Sometimes the best thing you can do is to take a little time out and time away to remind each other of those things that drew you together in the first place. And don’t wait for your 25th anniversary or that dream cruise to come about!  Instead, put aside a special time so the two of you can pull away and renew your love for one another.

And with that in mind . . . . . (are you ready for this?) . . . .

We’re offering a chance to win this fabulous Stay-at-Home Date Night Giveaway!

Date Night Giveaway

Stay-At-Home Date-Night Giveaway

Are you ready for an unforgettable date night? I’ve teamed up with some of my favorite bloggers to offer you one of the best stay-at-home date nights ever!

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And together we’ve put this HUGE package of date-night goodies that will arrive on your doorstep just in time for Valentine’s Day!

So what’s included in this amazing date night package?

Here’s the scoop!

Love jewelry? What woman doesn’t! Enjoy this $100 gift certificate to Luxe Design. They offer a fabulous selection of personalized and sentimental jewelry. They have a number of items that would be perfect for wives who wish to wear a tangible reminder of their choice to love their husband.


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Are you a Dayspring fan? We are offering some super-fun gifts from them to celebrate your marriage! These will add the perfect pinch of romance and sentimentality to your at-home date with these gifts below:

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For some awesome, inspirational reading, we are also including hard copies of the following books (look familiar? *wink):

100 Ways to Love Your Husband

Since it’s Valentine’s Day, we thought you needed some extra sparkle!

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My Dear Daughter: A Word About Love Stories and Happy Endings

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I feel rather blessed.

Being the mother of several lovely teenage daughters—young, bright, and beautiful.

All of them hoping to get married some day.

Or at least they think they will.

But to tell you the truth, they’ve grown a little doubtful lately.

The girls observe these marriages around them falling apart right before their eyes. They’ve seen the destruction of divorce and have stayed up late comforting dear friends whose parents are parting ways.

Or, they watch while some couples stay together, yet grow increasingly cold and distant.

Tension filling the air.

It troubles them to think of their lives ending in this unhappy way.

It messes with their minds and messes with their dreams.

They’re not little girls anymore and they understand that life is no fairytale.

But they can’t help wondering where did all the good stories go? You know, the ones with a happy ending?

Whatever happened to happily-ever-after?

And this is what I tell each precious one . . . .

My Dear Daughter - A Word About Love Stories and Happy Endings


My Dear Daughter

My dear daughter,

I believe in a good God who desires to write a beautiful story for our lives.

Rather than looking at the messed-up world around you, fix your eyes on Him who is more than able to care for you. He is the One you can trust for your hope and for your future.

. . . casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. (I Pet. 5:7)

I believe in a God who’s in the business of changing people.

He can change me and He can move that man of mine. He has the power to transform our marriage into something wonderful and glorifying to Him.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (2 Cor. 5:17)

I believe in a God who restores and redeems.

He can heal the broken and save the lost. I’ve seen Him turn lives around and rescue marriages from the most impossible situations.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. (Ps. 34:18)

I believe in a God who sees the big picture.

While we might only see the snapshot – what is happening today – He knows what our future holds.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jer. 29:11)

You can take your daddy and me, for example. Here we are, two imperfect people who have learned to love each other—who are still learning to love each other. Look at the good work God is doing in and through our life together.

Growing, learning, forgiving and loving some more.

This is the stuff that makes for some of the best stories.

This is a real love story.

With a very happy ending.

With love,


A Good and Powerful God

So that’s the kind of story I’m hoping for our daughters and the kind I’m hoping for you.

Not because I believe in fairytales, but because I believe in a good and powerful God.

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. (Eph. 3:20-21)

Let’s call on our God – He who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think – to do His beautiful work in our lives and relationships!

In His grace,

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One Thing Happy Couples Do

One Thing Happy Couples Do

My classroom windows open to the playground, so I listen to little kids play at recess every day. They’re so cute bundled head to toe in snow suits.

I hear one of them say, Pretend you’re________.

Okay, the other one says. And you pretend you’re________.

They imagine a world where there are no limitations, and they can be anything they want to be.

My husband and I play this game.

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We’re 23 years into pretending big stuff for each other. I was just reading Happy Wives Club, by Fawn Weaver, and apparently imagining big things for one’s spouse is a common element in happy marriages.

Really my husband is the best. When I started this writing thing and had seven blog readers –oh no wait, now 10 –he imagined me all kinds of famous.

Pretty soon, he would say, you’ll have about 157,000 readers, and then I’m going to have to quit my job as pastor so I can go with you on your book-signing tours.

And he mapped out the book-signing tours.

Of course, they would start on the east coast where the high-density crowds are, and I would have to sneak into bookstores so all my fans wouldn’t see me and mob me.

You know, because that’s how it is being famous. We would get used to it.

And then I would have to decide how many speaking engagements I could really handle in one year, because I wouldn’t want to overdo it. A woman has to live a balanced life you know.

I think all of these conversations happened on our Taco Bell dates. Him with his taco, and me with my burrito, hold the onions. And 80’s music playing in the background.

Free refills.

Back in our early days of marriage, I was the one pretending for him.

He was getting his masters in psychology, at UMHB in Texas, and then we were going to move to Montana where he would become the James Dobson of the north.

And I would help him with his radio broadcasts, because that’s what good wives do.

He would sign book deals because the world would be clamoring for his sage counsel.

Sometimes we would have to figure things out. I mean, how do a husband and wife with two very successful careers and world-wide fame still find time to be in love and care for their children? But we were willing to make it work.

The thing is, we kind of believed each other into doing brave and influential work. Somehow it went from pretending to making us feel truly valuable. 

Because if that man of mine thinks I can be something in this world?

I probably can.

I probably actually can do something meaningful.

And, hey, let me point out that I’m writing for Club31Women now, which means I am F.A.M.O.U.S.

Practically famous.

And I was brave enough to get this far because that man of mine imagined me here.

See, what you need to do is go on a date, and it can just be value meals, you guys. And on your date start talking about the big things you hope you can do.

Go ahead and imagine your husband in his dream.

No one at Taco Bell is listening. They’re all busy reading their funny taco sauce packets, so you don’t need to worry they’ll think you’re crazy.

So let me end with a famous saying from Taco Bell, something you can tell your spouse:

Live más.

Christy FitzwaterChristy Fitzwater is a pastor’s wife south of the border (Canadian, that is.) She has two children –a newly married daughter and a son who is a senior in high school, although she is in denial about the latter. Christy is a librarian’s daughter and an English major who loves the smell of a new book and freshly sharpened pencils but who occasionally can be seen in a kayak as her one claim to athleticism. Living in Kalispell, Montana she teaches high school Spanish at a Christian school in the afternoons and spends the mornings writing her devotional blog, Off the Shelf. Her greatest desire is to help people know and understand who God is. You can also find her at Pinterest and Twitter.

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The TOP 10 Popular Posts from Club31Women {2014}

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Don’t you just love the New Year and new beginnings?

So do I.

There’s a certain pleasure in looking back and seeing where you’ve been . . . and even more importantly, where you are going from here.

Do you know what else I enjoy?


No, really. It’s worth staying up until midnight if only to hear the shout of everyone counting down those last 10 seconds of the old year.

10, 9, 8, 7,

6, 5, 4, 3, 2…..


Loud and wild cheering!! YAY!!!

So are you ready to do a countdown from this past year at Club31Women? Because here they are . . . The Top Ten!

COUNTDOWN: Ten Most Popular Posts from 2014


24 Ways to Prepare Your Young Man to be a Gentleman

Club31Women.com_24 Ways to Prepare Your Young Man to be a GentlemanHow do you prepare you son to grow up to be a gentleman?

Boys will be boys.

For sure. But he can learn to be a gentleman as well. A gentleman in the right sense – not in a sissy, unreasonable manner – but a kind, respectful and godly young man.

It’s not that we’d ask our son to sit with his hands folded or keep him from running, building or exploring. No way. But we do hope he’ll learn to be wise, to consider others, and to remember that he’s a son of the King.

A true gentleman . . . . (Read the rest HERE)



How to Help Your Fall-Apart Child . . . Pull It Together

Club31Women.com_How to Help Your Fall-Apart Child Pull It TogetherHow do you help your child who tends to fall apart? Here are several wonderful ways a mom can encourage her child to pull it together – and to grow strong in the process.

Any advice for this weary mom?

She was tired, discouraged, and a little disappointed. Wondered if she was doing it right.

My friend went on to explain. Her 12-year-old daughter had been helping with the dishes since she was about three. But as their family size grew, she now had to handwash a few extra dishes, mainly pots and pans. Not too difficult of a chore.

Except that she kept forgetting. And had to be called back to the sink to do them.

And 100% of the time she threw a crying fit about it.

My friend nearly despaired . . . . (Read the rest HERE)



The Essential Do’s and Don’ts for Courtship and Dating

Club31Women.com_The Essential Dos and Donts for Courtship and DatingHow do you find the person you will someday marry? What is the right way to approach dating? What about courtship? Here is a solid list of The Essential Do’s and Don’t for Courtship and Dating.

But I don’t want to date . . . I simply want to get married.

That’s what I told our family friend who was concerned that I wasn’t dating at the age of 26.

Oh, not that I’d never dated. It’s just that I found the whole dating scene rather depressing. Disappointing. Discouraging. You get the idea.

My friend found my answer rather perplexing. “How can you get married . . . if you never date?” (Read the rest HERE)



6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear from His Sister

Club31Women.com_6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear from His SisterWhat does a boy need to hear from his sister? Your daughter might not realize what a powerful voice she can have in her brother’s life – for years to come.

What does my brother need to hear from me? As his sister?

That’s the question the young lady posed to me.

While I’ve been asked many things since I started this blog, this one was a first.

And it was a great question . . . . (Read the rest HERE)



5 Ways to Live Neatly Around the Mess of Children

Club31Women.com_5 Ways to Live Neatly Around the Mess of ChildrenEver get discouraged about the mess? Be encouraged with these surprisingly helpful ways to bring a tidy solution to your home.

It took me a while to get up my nerve to ask her.

She seemed to have so much together, this amazing friend of mine.

She was one of those – you know, lovely, talented, a fabulous cook, and her house always appeared immaculate. At least as far as I could tell.

So one day, I simply up and asked her: “How do you do it? How do you keep your home so pristine? And with two young children . . . ?” (Read the rest HERE)



12 Lessons I Want My Son to Learn Before He Turns 12

Club31Women.com_12 Lessons I Want My Son to Learn Before He Turns 12What are the most important things you can teach your young son? I want our sons to learn to look after others, to be mindful of the world around them, and to be ready for their calling when God gives it.

Isn’t it amazing how much you can learn in one trip to the library?

Most every week I take one . . . or more . . . of the boys with me for a Library Date.

Yesterday, I took all three boys – ages 8, 10, and 12.

The boys raced for the entrance door, but then the oldest stayed behind and held the door open for the person who had come up the walk behind us . . . . (Read the rest HERE)



The Highly-Rated Habit of Respecting Him

+What says respect to him? Communicating respect in a way that is meaningful to him.

Let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Eph.5:33)

Oh, okay, got it. Seems fairly straightforward.


Except that this respect-thing strikes me as rather vague. Undefined. I’m not trying to be difficult either, it’s just not as clear as I’d like it to be . . . . (Read the rest HERE)



One Simple Way to Start a Small Blaze in Your Marriage

Club31Women.com_One Simple Way to Start a Blaze in Your MarriageHow do you keep your marriage warm and inviting? Here is one simple way a wife can start a small blaze in her marriage.

I could hear his footsteps.

Unmistakable. Firm, solid feet. Man-steps. Quite different than the quick pattering of all the other little feet I’d heard throughout the day. Madly chopping and slicing, I never even looked up when he entered . . . . (Read the rest HERE)



25 Tips I Want to Share With Younger Wives

Club31Women.com_25 Tips I Would Want to Share With Younger WivesWhat does it take to build a lovely marriage? What advice could I give? What would keep the two of them loving each other in the years to come?

She asked if we could meet for coffee. Clearly, something was on her mind.

She’s a wonderful young lady and full of the hopes and dreams that come with youth. She wants a beautiful marriage. Yet she’d also been around long enough to know that a strong, loving marriage isn’t a guarantee . . . . (Read the rest HERE)


Now for the Top Post of 2014 . . . . drum roll, please ;)


12 Simple Things to Bring Peace Into Your Home

Club31Women.com_12 Simple Things to Bring Peace to Your HomeWhat are those small things that can make a significant difference in your home? Here are 12 simple things that can help bring peace into your home and family.

She dropped by unannounced.

And I couldn’t help cringing somewhat. Ever-so-slightly mortified.

You see, she was an author, something of a celebrity, and now a personal friend.

So, of course, I was thrilled to see her, but was also deeply concerned about the impression we were making. Suddenly self-conscious of the layer of dust on the piano and the ridiculous pile of dirty socks by the front door.

I faintly whispered to my husband, “Oh, what must she be thinking??” . . .  (Read the rest HERE)

Loud and wild cheering!! YAY!!!

A Happy New Year to You

So my friends, I want to thank you for all your overwhelming love and support this past year. Your kind and encouraging words have meant so much to me and my family (You might be surprised if you knew how many have been shared at our family gatherings).

I want to wish you from the bottom of my heart a very, very happy NEW YEAR! New beginnings and new blessings to each and every one of you!

Behold, I am doing a new thing;
now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?
I will make a way in the wilderness
and rivers in the desert. ~ Isaiah 43:19

From our home to yours,

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