She told me that she remembers it well.
My friend – more like my mom’s friend – said she can still picture me as a young girl walking around with my duster in one hand . . . and my nose buried in a book in my other. Dusting the bookshelves without ever glancing up from my own reading.
My idea of “doing my chores.”
This explains a lot of things really.
Like how I spent most of my childhood with my head in the clouds.
Like how I never did pay much attention to housework (just as my mom always suspected).
And why I was clueless about homemaking when I first got married.
Not the end of the world, I suppose.
Except that once the honeymoon was over, I woke up and looked around our small, 2-bedroom apartment and suddenly realized
about keeping house.
Or at least next to nothing.
Let’s put it this way: the learning curve was fairly high.
You’re probably much farther along that I was when I began running our home. But in case you’re in a place where you’re looking for a few helpful homemaking hints, or maybe could use a refresher course? I’m offering my 5 best tips today.
My 5 Best Tips to Help You Out in Homemaking
Practice might not make perfect, but it should improve things over time. If you’re not efficient at cleaning the bathroom? Practice. If you’re struggling with laundry? Practice.
Like any other skill – yes, I used the word skill – do it every day (or often) until you get really good at it.
2. Work on one area.
Or at least one area at a time. The biggest complaint I hear is about being overwhelmed. But you don’t have to be up on everything all the time! I’m sure not.
I’m telling ya, it’s a juggling act. Just when I get the bathrooms shipshape, I realize the laundry room is overflowing. Then the fridge gets green and scary. And so on and so forth.
One step at a time. One area at a time. Rinse and repeat.
3. Give yourself grace.
In challenging seasons. Pregnancy, new baby, illness, job loss, or maybe moving to a new house? These are BIG and you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself when walking through it.
During such times, slip into survival mode and try to concentrate on the bare basics – the other stuff will get done when we’re in a different season. You’ve got enough on your hands without heaping further guilt on yourself.
4. Remember Who you are serving.
If I think of all this work as only for my sake (or my pride), or even for my family’s sake, then it can be downright discouraging. But when I remember that I am doing this as service to God—and Him only? Changes things quite a bit.
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men (or family, friends, or neighbors). ~ Col. 3:23
Then ask the Lord to put a song in your heart and strength in your hands and go to it!
5. Study the craft.
So I admitted how inept I was at keeping house when I began. Wondering how I eventually learned the skill of homemaking?
Yeah, I’m serious.
You wouldn’t believe all the books and articles I read on the subject! I was determined to master this stuff. And after a time, I even began to get excited about what I was learning. At the end of the day, I’d share with my husband all kinds of thrilling bits of information:
- Baking soda gets the smell out of stinky spots.
- Clean the dirtiest areas of the bathroom first and then work your way up the mirrors last.
- Run a lemon through the garbage disposal to freshen the sink.
He was on the edge of his seat, I’m sure. 🙂
The main thing was that I was learning things that made my homemaking easier and more efficient. I no longer felt quite so helpless and overwhelmed.
Which brings me to the next thing I want to share with you . . . .
*Note: If you’re not in a place right now to do something like what I’m sharing below – whether financially or just plain headspace – then that’s okay too. I only want to share things that will bless you—not as “one more thing” to add to your already full plate.
I think this will be my 3rd year now and this year is looking like another excellent conference!
They have 17 amazing speakers lined up (including our very own Christy Fitzwater!) to deliver 20 conference sessions throughout the four days.
The theme for this year is Finding Balance in Your Home and each session addresses various aspects of how to find and achieve balance in your home…all for God’s Glory!
The conference officially kicks off next week (October 25th-28th) and this year they’re offering a “budget” option, as well as a premium ticket – yay!! (Although if you register by Thursday (Oct. 20) for a premium ticket, they are including a bonus of this wonderful 7-part audio series, “Stop Running on Empty: Investing in Yourself for Your Home, Family, & God’s Glory.”)
Now I’m passing this on to you in case you’ve been wanting to improve your knowledge and skills in homemaking. It’s just the kind of thing I could have used when I first got married. Could still use . . .
You can find more details here—> Homemaking Ministries Online Conference 2016
*Just for fun: Share one or more of your favorite homemaking tips! Like how to clean burnt milk off the stove – stuff like that! (I’m all ears)
In His grace,
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