I guess I was always a dreamer.
Often lost in my own world. So many things I wanted to do and so many places I wanted to go.
As a young girl, my heart was full of wild dreams and high hopes. I wanted to meet wonderful people, read great books, and travel around the world. I wanted to learn other languages, play Chopin, and minister to the needy. I longed to become a wife and mother.
Yes, lots of big dreams floating around in that little girl’s head. And, by God’s grace, many of those dreams came true.
Like enjoying dreamy daughters of my own.
Now here they are imagining all the things that they’d like to do and places they’d like to explore. How I love listening to their grand ideas and beautiful visions! I’m thrilled to cheer them on as they seek God’s calling on their young lives.
How Do You Inspire Dreams in Your Daughter?
Accept that her dreams might be different than your own. One of our daughters hopes to get her novel published. One is interested in graphic design and another in event-planning. Yikes! I’ve wanted to do a lot of things, but never wanted to do any of those. But that’s okay. It’s exciting to see the variety of interests each girl has and the different way each one is gifted.
Give her opportunities to develop her talents. This is the fun part. Brainstorm and seek out all the possible ways your daughter can gain experience and strengthen her gifts. Music lessons. Travel. Political campaigns. Photography. Business meetings. Half-marathons. We’ve done all these.and much more. See what you can come up with together.
Calm her fears. I guess we all have our insecurities and worries. What if they don’t like me? What if I fail? What if I change my mind? What if I’m not good at it? Umm…I can so relate to every one of those questions. And I’m a Big Girl now! So yeah, our daughters need to hear our encouraging and comforting words. They can do whatever God has called them to do and they just might need you to remind them of that fact – often.
Protect her from harm. So while I’m all for inspiring big ideas in our daughters, I’m also concerned for their safety. I actually don’t want our girls roaming the streets of Paris – like I did when I was 19 – even if it does put a damper on their plans. Some dreams aren’t worth the danger. At times we’ve had to get creative to come up with a way that she can venture out, but not be put in an overly risky situation.
Affirm the joys of being a wife and mother. Maybe this one surprises you. But, yes, I do encourage our daughters in their hope to marry and raise children some day. While they have to hold this hope loosely – not knowing what God has planned for them – it has a place at the top of their list of dreams. And why not? Out of all things I’ve gone and “done”, this one has brought me the greatest joy.
In some ways – in many ways, really – I’m still a dreamer. Just today the girls and I were thinking up all kinds of things we could imagine getting to do some day. We talked about traveling, missions, and meeting people. We couldn’t help wondering where The Lord might be leading in the next year or two. So many possibilities.
Hmm….I do wonder.
Are you a bit of a dreamer too? In what ways do you encourage the dreams of your daughter? I’d love to hear!
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