25 Falling-in-Love, Fall Date Ideas

25 Falling-in-Love Fall Dates I’m not sure when it hit me.

But I think it was while we were sitting by the Blue River and simply holding hands.

Not talking and not even really thinking.

Just loving each other.

It was our anniversary and he’d surprised me with a few days in a quiet cabin tucked into the woods.

And you want to know something about that time we had together? It felt right and good.

We both felt it.

Not that we had doubted our love for each other, but it had just been so busy lately and we’d had so much going on.

That we could tell this was what we needed.

This slowing down and focusing on him and me.

Falling in love all over again.

And somewhere along that river,  I got the idea of sharing some more falling-in-love fall date ideas with you.

You don’t even have to wait for your anniversary! You can slip away for a few hours and simply hold hands.

Because if it’s good for us? Then I’m wondering if it might be good for you too.

To slow down a bit.

To stop for a few moments and remember to fall-in-love with each other over . . . and then over again.

25 Falling-in-Love Fall Dates

25 Falling-in-Love Fall Dates

1.  Go out for a pumpkin spice latte.

Might as well start with this one, right? Okay, so I don’t know if I could talk him into a pumpkin spice latte, but I’m fairly certain that I could convince him to grab me one. And that I could count on him to get his usual 16 oz. Americano and that be would be satisfied with watching me enjoy mine.  So that works for me (and him)!

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2.  Plan a perfect picnic for two.

This one’s easy if you ask me. All you have to do is pack a few yummy sandwiches or maybe pour some hot soup in a thermos and voila! you’ve got a picnic. Grab an old blanket or look for a picnic table and you’re good to go! And if you want to add something really delicious, tuck in a couple of pieces of this Maple Pumpkin Cake. Mmm! He’s gonna love it…Oh, I mean love you! 😉

3.  Head-out for an old-fashioned hayride together.

So I haven’t done this since I was a kid, but I think it would be very fun and rather romantic, don’t you?

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4.  Go stargazing.

Fall is the perfect time to watch the stars! We live out in the country so we only have to step out into our yard, but you might have to drive out a ways or look for the nearest observatory. There’s something about staring up at the sky to make you  in awe of our Creator . . . and starry-eyed for one another!

5. Get a big bonfire going.

Build a hot fire on a chilly autumn night and you’ve instantly got a romantic evening! Pull up a couple of old camp chairs, throw a warm, wooly blanket around you both and grow dreamy in the dancing flames.

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6.  Hop on (or rent) a couple of bikes and go exploring.

We did this on our last anniversary and I couldn’t believe how much fun we had! (Or how sore I was the next day….but hey! it was worth it.)

7.   Go see a football game together.

I don’t even like football all that much, but there’s something about fall and football that seem to go together—especially if you or your husband is a sports fan!

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8.  Try out a DateCrate.

Okay, so I just LOVE this idea! Matthew and I recently discovered DateCrates and we’re completely sold on these fabulous “dates-in-a-box”! We tried out their Latte Love crate (no big surprise, huh?), but I’ve got my eye on the Glamping  one to try next month… Seriously, these are totally worth checking out!

9.  Roast s’mores together.

Now we happen to have a fire pit just outside our bedroom door (yes, I’m serious! rather convenient), but you can try your fireplace or even the stovetop, if it comes down to it. You can even get creative and try something other than the traditional Hershey bar chocolates. My favorite is probably S’mores with Reese’s Peanut Butter cups, but he likes caramel chocolates in his.

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10.   Fall is a great time to try a new hike.

So lace up your hiking boots and head out on an adventure together! Pack a few snacks, some water, and a layering jacket and you’re set to go.

11.  Pop new flavors of popcorn.

I don’t know about you guys, but we are big fans of popcorn over here. All kinds of popcorn! In addition to the traditional, butter-and-salt variety, we’ve tried coconut (substituting coconut oil for butter), cinnamon & sugar, Jello popcorn, Rice-Crispie popcorn (melted marshmallow), and caramel popcorn. Caution: once you get going, you might find this surprisingly addictive!

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12.  Curl up in your very own romantic refuge.

I’ve already shared with you my idea for creating a little romantic place in your very own home and this is still one of my favorite fall-back date places. I’ll send him a text to “meet me in the refuge” and he knows where he can find me (and yes, he does have a home office, but texting makes it more flirty somehow :) ! *My favorite We Still Do pillow is available from EverThineHome.

13.  Try a caramel fondue.

My good friend recently suggested this idea and now I’m keen to try it! My husband loves caramel anything, so I think he’d really enjoy this one. Here are some goodies that would be fun to dip: tart apple slices, chocolate squares, popcorn, peanuts, pretzels, etc. Wowza! Decadent.

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14.  Take off on a fall foliage drive.

Because we live in the desert, we have to drive out a while before we see much color but it is one of my all-time favorite things. Fill up the gas tank (ouch!) and then grab that pumpkin spice latte and get ready to see God’s glorious creation on display!

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15.  A quiet evening by the fire reading and loving one another.

Sometimes we read a book together, but more often he reads his book while I read mine. Or you could both read our books (pictured above) and pick out one of the ways you want to focus on loving the other person.  *Available HERE

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16.   Cook up a batch of pumpkin treats to try.

Like these Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Muffins or some Amish Pumpkin Pancakes. Yum!!

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17.  Go see War Room.

We recently went to the theater to see War Room, the newest movie from the Kendrick brothers, and found it to be very inspiring! This makes for a terrific date night with plenty to talk about after the movie is over.

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18.  Visit a nearby pumpkin patch.

It’s not just for kids, you know! Pumpkins are for everyone.

19.   Plan a game-night for two.

Once the weather starts turning cooler, bring out the boardgames and challenge him to a game of Settlers of Catan or Monopoly or try a new game you’ve not played before.

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20.  Go apple-picking.

They taste better when you’ve picked them yourself. I promise!

21.   Bring those apples home and bake up an old-fashioned apple pie.

Nothing says “romance” quite like a piece of hot homemade apple pie. This alone speaks volumes of love. 😉

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22. Create your own photoshoot.

There’s something about fall that turns even the most amateur of us into gifted photographers. Don’t have a fancy camera? Neither do we.  But you might be pleasantly surprised at what a smart phone can do!

23.  Curl up and watch an old movie together after the kids are in bed.

Okay, confession time: Occasionally he and I turn in early, snuggle up in our bed, and watch a movie together on his computer. Probably not overly mature or creative, but sometimes it’s nice just to veg out and enjoy an old-fashioned romance or comedy.

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24.  Watch the sunset together.

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25.   Sit beside each other and simply hold hands.

Not talking and not even really thinking.

Just loving each other.

And now we’re right back to where we began. 

In love.

Have a happy fall, falling in love all over again!

In His grace,

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The Most Important Ingredient in Family Relationships

The Most Important Ingredient in Family Relationships

When someone asks me, “What do you think is the most important ingredient in the family?

I quickly respond: forgiveness.

It also might be the most difficult.

I can’t count the number of times over the years that I’ve had to go to my husband or my children and say, “Honey, I shouldn’t have said what I did, or I shouldn’t have done what I did and I need to ask you to forgive me. Will you forgive me?”

I can’t remember a single time that I felt like doing this.

I’d much rather tack on, “But if you had or if you hadn’t….”

After all, sometimes I think I’m justified.

But God has commanded me to ask for forgiveness and to grant it. So for the sake of my relationship with Him I go…most likely silently kicking and screaming!

If I waited until I felt like doing this I’d probably never do it. And then bitterness and resentment would begin to creep into our relationship creating a low-grade infection that has the potential to grow into a serious illness.

The asking and granting of forgiveness does not mean that trust is restored. Trust has to be earned and often this takes a long time. It also does not mean you or the other person immediately feel better. Either of you may be wounded.

However, it is the asking of and granting of forgiveness that opens the door to the healing process.

Confessing our sins and asking forgiveness is harder for some than others. My husband John says (generally speaking) it’s easier for women to ask for forgiveness than it is for men and it’s easier for men to grant it than it is for most women.

It helps to realize that what we practice within our families will trickle down into other relationships.

Yesterday I had to ask a girlfriend for forgiveness for something I said that I found out had offended her. I had not meant to offend her but I did. Yes it was humiliating for me to do this but in the long term I want a clean relationship with her and I want to be obedient to God in this area of confessing.

It helps to remember that, God-willing, we are raising future husbands and wives. And they are going to need to know how to forgive if they want healthy marriages. How will they learn how to do this if they don’t see us practicing this in our home?

Sometimes for me it’s the way I said something to my husband. It was cynical, critical or unkind. And I have to say to him,

“Honey I’m sorry I said that the way I did. Will you forgive me?”

Once forgiveness is granted we might talk about how I could have said what I needed to say in a better way. We don’t sweep the issue under the carpet, but instead bring it into the open and ask God to help us resolve the issue.

How about you? We all need God ‘s help in the asking and granting of forgiveness.

If we ask Him for help, He will give it generously.

After all forgiveness is the heart of the gospel.

 If we confess our sins He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (I John 1:9)

Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. (James 5:16)



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4 Kinds of Talk that Will Save Your Marriage

4 Talks to Save Your Marriage

We’re skipping church because we’ve been gone all weekend.

We’re watching it instead, online, Pastor Mark Hughes’ Church of the Rock, and we’re watching a sermon on marriage on separate couches, while our boys climb all over us. Trent and I look at each other across the room and sigh, roll our eyes and there’s a splash of sunlight on the floor, falling from the sky. Just a splash but it’s enough to make the room feel warmer.

Marriage is hard with kids, and it’s hard without kids too. It’s just plain hard.

Not because of anything except that you are two sinful people with different ways of communicating, different ways of seeing and perceiving the world and suddenly you’re apparently one body and not only that, you’re expected to raise two very impressionable young children while being consistently “on the same page”.

And you try to have date night which basically means sitting on the couch with your feet up watching something funny because you can’t handle serious after the kind of day you had and suddenly the boys are yelling at you from bed because they want more water or another song or they’re hungry.

And you do that thing where you look at each other and even though you’re side by side you feel miles apart.

“Who are you?” you ask, not only to the person in front of you but to the person that you are, because you forget. You forget what makes you laugh. You forget what you used to do when you had free time, you forget what romance is because you’re so tired when you fall into bed it’s all you can do turn out the light before you’re snoring.

But I want more.

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I know, my kids are 6 months and four and five and a half and we’re both neck deep in our careers and yet, I don’t want to lose “us” before the children are out of the house and suddenly we don’t know what to talk about anymore.

But more than that, I want to have the kind of marriage that makes my kids want to get married.

They say that your eyes should light up every time your son or daughter walks into the room. I think we should aim just as high when our spouse walks into the room.

But it’s not just about the eyes lighting up. It’s about talking to your other half–really, truly talking. According to Pastor Mark Hughes of Church of the Rock–the program we were watching on separate couches while our boys tugged on our hair and flipped across our laps, there are 4 kinds of talk that will save a marriage.

  1. Small Talk: You know, the kind in which you discuss the weather, the day, How was work honey, Did you get the mail like I asked you to, Why didn’t you get the mail like I asked you to?! Yeah,  that kind of talk.
  2. Sweet Talk: Trent and I call each other Babes, but that’s about the extent of our sweet talk, so we realized we needed to work on that. So I told him one night that I liked his butt. He told me he liked mine too. It’s a start.
  3. Serious Talk: This is when you discuss a heightened version of Small talk, concerning more crucial topics, like health, finances, relationships, careers. People often think they’re having an intimate talk if it’s about something serious, but in fact, it’s not. Yet it’s still important to do.
  4. Soul Talk: This is the most intimate version of communication. This is where you ask each other a “soul” question, like “What are you afraid of?” or “If you could accomplish one thing with your life, what would it be?”

So Trent and I have started soul-talking. Because we’ve realized we’ve been living mostly off of small talk, serious talk and a crush on each other’s butts. But our marriage was feeling flat because there was no soul.

You gotta have soul.

So set aside one night a week where you ask each other a question. Put the kids to bed early, pop some corn, pour each other a glass of bubbly and sit out on the deck.

It’s worth it to one day have the kind of marriage that makes our kids say, “Hey–I want one of those!”


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Emily T. Wierenga is an award-winning journalist, columnist, artist, author, founder of The Lulu Tree and blogger at www.emilywierenga.com. Her work has appeared in many publications, including Relevant, Charisma, Desiring God, The Gospel Coalition, Christianity Today, Dayspring’s (in)courage and Focus on the Family. She is the author of six books including the travel memoir Atlas Girl and speaks regularly about her journey with anorexia. She lives in Alberta, Canada, with her husband, Trenton, and their children. For more info, please visit www.emilywierenga.com. Find her on Twitter or Facebook.

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How One Woman Can Fight Poverty {& Make Her Family Rich}

How One Woman Can Fight Poverty

It wasn’t how he planned to spend his day off, on a summer afternoon –under the covers with a rolling stomach.

But there he was, so I kept going upstairs to check on him and kiss his forehead.

“What am I smelling?” he asked.

“Jell-O,” I said.

He turned five.

“What kind of Jell-O?” he asked.


“Oh, red. I like red,” he said.

So when the Jell-O stood firm in the goblet and his stomach stood firm enough to beg for something to eat, I brought him red Jell-O and a spoon.

“My mom used to make Jell-O in special Tupperware cups,” he said. And for a few minutes he forgot about feeling icky and traveled back to days when great happiness came jiggling in Tupperware, and his mom was taking care of him when his stomach was upset.

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Handfuls of Gold

While my husband was upstairs sick, I had been reading what is now one of my favorite books, suggested to me by our very own Lisa Jacobson. It is West with the Night, by Beryl Markham –her story of growing up in Africa and flying a prop plane as her adult vocation. It stands, in my mind, next to Dickens’ A Christmas Carol for brilliance in writing.

Beryl tells of flying into the tiny village of Nungwe, where she is asked to visit with a man who is near death, because he longs to hear news of the outside world. She describes entering his hut:

“It was a tiny hut with the usual single window blocked with corrugated iron, the usual thatched roof, old and dropping its leaves like a rotted tree, and the usual earthen floor paved with burnt matchsticks, paper, and shreds of tobacco.

There never seems to be any reason for filth, but there are occasions, like this one, where it would be hard to find a reason for cleanliness. ‘Poverty,’ an old proverb says, ‘is not a disgrace, but a great swinishness.’ Here was poverty –poverty of women to help, poverty of hope, and even of life.

For all I knew there might have been handfuls of gold buried in that hut, but if there were, it was the poorest comfort of all.”

As I was pouring red gelatin into boiling water, all I could think of was that phrase “a poverty of women to help.”

Here was this poor man, dying in a hut in Africa, and his greatest poverty was not having a woman around to make things clean and comfortable.

Can you imagine gold buried under our homes and yet our families still living in poverty because we are not bringing a richness of comfort to them?

Can you imagine a man with a stomach bug and no woman to make him Jell-O?

I thought about this again later on, as I was pulling my guy’s underwear out of the dryer, folding it, and making a neat stack of it.

“I am making my family rich right now,” I said to myself.

His face when he talked about his mom and those Tupperware cups filled with Jell-O –if you could have seen the warm look that came into my husband’s eyes and the deep peacefulness that shaped his expression. A look of being well cared for. Does his mom know that she gave him one of his sweetest memories, with nothing more than red gelatin?

Ladies, you make your family rich every time you clean or do any action that creates comfort for them.

Socks in a drawer.

Hot soup on a cold day.

Sparkly clean toilets.

You are one woman pushing back the poverty of filth and discomfort.

Christy Fitzwater

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4 Ways to Escape the Trap of Emotional Divorce

4 Ways to Escape the Trap of Emotional Divorce

Have you ever found yourself feeling:

“I’m just so mad, so hurt—again. I’m not going to share my heart with him anymore. He doesn’t understand. It is too painful. We’ll live in the same house but he can do his thing and I’ll do mine.” 

Most of us, if we are really honest, have felt this way about our husband from time to time.

I call it falling into the trap of emotional divorce.

Imagine a solid glass patio door.

Emotional divorce is a bit like slamming that patio door shut on our hearts.

We still see the person on the other side, but there’s a strong, sealed panel between us.

We begin to close up our heart to him.

This trap can occur during stressful transitions in our lives-a move, a job loss, financial pressures, a new baby, caring for elderly parents, a child in crisis, etc. We are stressed and if each of us responds differently to the issue, we get irritated.

We are too exhausted to communicate.

We are afraid, and we unintentionally take it out on one another.

What do we do when we find ourselves falling into this trap?

1. Recognize what is happening and refuse to let that “patio door” separate you.

2. Make the decision to take a sledgehammer and begin to chip away at that glass wall. Thick patio doors don’t usually splinter into pieces all at once. It takes a steady chipping away at a tiny crack until the door dissolves.

3. Talk to a godly older couple and ask for their help. Most churches have older couples who would be happy to mentor you, pray for you, and encourage you. Get counseling as needed.

4. Remember God is for your marriage. He is the strong “super glue” holding you together. You can rely on Him. He will bring you through this time and your marriage will be deeper and stronger as a result.

“For nothing is impossible for God.” (Luke 1:37)



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Sometimes Love in Marriage Comes Down to the Smallest of Things

Sometimes Love Comes Down to the Smallest of Things

How can one jar of peanut-butter cause so much trouble?

No kidding, that’s what I wanted to know too.

Because apparently it was A Big Problem and he made that quite clear.

My husband was fed up with the sticky, slimy mess dripping down the sides of the peanut-butter jar and insisted we put a stop to the madness.

“Why can’t we keep this jar clean?! There’s no reason we should live like this and it’s driving me nuts!” He didn’t yell, but I could tell by his tone that he really meant it.

Oh, but there was a very good reason as far as I was concerned and protested against his somewhat ridiculous request.

Actually, there were eight good reasons. You see we have these things called children and one mother can’t be on top of everything!

Why so unreasonable? So demanding?

Now on his behalf, I have to tell you that my husband is not a complainer.

He doesn’t make negative remarks about my cooking. He doesn’t complain about having to throw on his robe in the morning and search for the essential items in the laundry room (oops! meant to fold and put those away…). He’s even good about patiently sitting in the car and waiting for me to get out the door. And that can be a pretty long wait sometimes.

But the goopy peanut-butter container? That just about does him in.

So how many of you moms can I count on to side with me on this one?

I mean, we have a bunch of kids and they all make their own peanut-butter sandwiches. Even the three young boys. Let’s face it – it’s a sticky, slimy world we live in.

And I basically communicated to him . . . .

Sorry. But that’s just the way it has to be. 

That we were going to have to learn to live with it. That he was asking the impossible. And I left him in the kitchen feeling quite justified in my defensive and huffy response.

Except for one thing . . . . 

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Epiphany in the Parlor

I left the kitchen to recover and regroup in our front sitting room – our “parlor” as we call it and my very favorite room in the house.

It’s a special place.

The Parlor has pretty pillows, a tea tray, and a clear glass (yes, that would be GLASS) coffee table.

The kids are not allowed to eat in this room.

Or have their electronic gadgets.

No Legos, dirty socks, or rollerblades are permitted in the Parlor. Happy sigh.

I love this room.

Now wait! Are you beginning to wonder how it is that I can keep an entire room looking pristine even though we have all these children? With a glass coffee table, no less??

Well. It’s because it’s important to me, of course. Really important.

But I can’t keep the peanut-butter jar wiped down?


Yeah, that’s the question that got to me too.

You see, I have this tendency to take my priorities very seriously. And this room is one of those.

Not only that, but when the rest of my family do their best to keep it the way I like it?

It makes me happy.

I feel respected.

Maybe even loved.

I know. It’s a small thing. So maybe you don’t see why it’s a big deal to me.

But it kinda is.

If at all possible.

So maybe I don’t understand why all the fuss over the sloppy peanut-butter jar.

But if it’s important to him?

Makes him happy?

Feel respected?

Maybe even loved…?

Then I can do this small thing.

In fact, I’m determined to have the cleanest peanut-butter jar in town.

And if you ever find yourself anywhere near our area, I hope you’ll stop by ’cause I’d love to make you a peanut-butter sandwich. Or have that youngest son of ours make you one. He makes the best.

It’s true that you might have to step over a heaping pile of rollerblades on the front porch and overlook the baskets of clean laundry waiting to be folded in the living room.

But there should be a nice place for you to sit in the parlor.

And you’ll be sure to admire the amazingly spotless peanut-butter container, won’t you?

Because he sure does.

He likes it that way.

But better than that?

He loves me.

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. ~ Philippians 2:4

In His grace,

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