Embrace Your Marriage: A Virtual Marriage Retreat

Have you been hoping to attend a marriage retreat?

But maybe you just haven’t been able to get away.

Or maybe you’ve both been way too busy.

Or perhaps you simply haven’t been able to afford it.

Well, how you would you like to come to our Virtual Marriage Retreat?

You don’t even have to leave the house (unless you want to) and it doesn’t cost a thing.

Yes, I’m totally serious. Lovely idea, isn’t it? I thought so too.

That’s why I’m so excited to share with you this new Marriage Series starting the 1st of September!

Embrace Your Marriage - A Virtual Marriage Retreat

Every Monday in September, each of the following blogs will be offering a word of wisdom and inspiration to encourage you in your marriage. You can meet my wonderful blogger friends over at the following sites . . . .

And here’s what you have to look forward to!

  • September 1 – Embracing Grace 
  • September 8th – Embracing Change  
  • September 15th – Embracing Your Differences  
  • September 22nd – Embracing Unity 
  • September 29th – Embracing Friendship 

So mark your calendar and join us each week as we all share on these very important topics in marriage. And be sure and invite any friends who might be blessed by this event as well.

Looking forward to seeing you on Monday!

*If you have topics or questions that you would like covered in this series, would you let me know? Either in a comment below, or on my contact page? I’ll do my best to cover it if I can!

In His grace,
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100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson and 100 Ways to Love Your Wife by Matthew L Jacobson

Why Wait Until the Fourth of July to Set Off Spectacular Fireworks?

Why Wait Until the Fourth of July to Set Off Fireworks

I’m hoping you won’t think any less of me.

But I’m not really much of a texter.

I know that puts me hopelessly behind the times and my dear husband has done his best to bring me up to speed. He even went out and got me a snazzy smart phone.

So one day I heard this peculiar swoosh sound emanating from the thing. Curious, I picked it up and saw there was a green bubble square indicating I had a message.

A message? For me??

And suddenly I’m a young girl in junior high who’s just been passed a carefully folded-up note – intended only for my eyes.

No name given, but I recognized the number. Knew it by heart. It was his.

The message went like this: “Hey Gorgeous, you’re my girl.”

That’s it. That’s all he said.

But, ooh-hoo! Did that ever light some spectacular fireworks in my heart! I nearly swooned with love for the guy.

And I decided that I liked my new phone.

And I liked texting.

And I sure did like him.

It also got me thinking . . .

What about a reply? I should write back to him. What kind of “note” could I deliver in return? Hmmm…..

So I set out on one of my secret campaigns – a little love campaign.

Each day I wanted to say something I loved or appreciated about him.

Just one thing. Short and sweet.

Things I figured he knew? But just in case he had any doubts or it wasn’t as clear as it could have been.

Oh yes, I was going to try and send a few fireworks his way as well.

On some days I whispered my message in his ear. On others I shared it quite loudly in front of the children. I sent out emails and scribbled notes and left them on his desk. I even – believe it or not –  texted a line or two.

So maybe you’re considering starting a little Love Campaign of your own?

If so, I highly recommend it. It’s really quite fun – with or without a snazzy smart phone – and you just might find that two people can play this game.

Looking for ideas? Here’s a sampling of the ones I sent out to him:

  • I couldn’t do this without you. And I wouldn’t want to either.
  • Honey, you make me laugh!
  • I loved being with you this morning.
  • You are my knight in shining armor.
  • I’m crazy about you, Baby.
  • You’re a good dad. Making homemade ice-cream with the kids at 10:00 pm!
  • I miss you when you’re gone.
  • I was glad for your clear head in that difficult situation earlier today.
  • This is my favorite place to be. Snuggled up in your arms.
  • Thank you for looking after me.
  • My heart belongs to you. Always.

And if you’re wondering if my strategy was successful?

Well, yes, I’d like to think it was.

He seemed to like my notes and messages. I could tell by the way he smiled and by the way he hugged me extra tight when he got home at night.

I mean, why wait until the Fourth of July to set off the fireworks?

A few thoughtful words – written, whispered, spoken, and texted too. Little love notes scattered everywhere.

And spectacular fireworks all year round!

In His grace,
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Summer Marriage Splash Series

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So do you have a favorite season?

Mine is summer. Hands down.

I love the sunshine.

I love the lighter schedule.

And I love reading on our front porch swing with a glass of iced tea.

Would you believe I already have a stack of books waiting impatiently for me and for summer to begin?

How about you? What do you enjoy about summer? And what books will you be reading?

I have some recommendations, if you’re looking for any. I have read each of these books below and each one has blessed me and encouraged my marriage in a different way.

And with that in mind,  recently the authors and I got together and decided we should celebrate summer by putting on a fun Summer Marriage Splash!

Five days. Five bloggers. Five books.

Yes, every day this week, we’re going to be sharing something encouraging and inspiring for your marriage. How’s that for a terrific way to kick off the summer?

Here’s how it’s going to work. Today is my day (as you see) and then here is the schedule for the rest of the gals.

I hope you’ll get the chance to visit each every one of them and benefit from their wisdom and insight. You’ll be very glad you did!

So grab an iced tea (if you like)  and then hop on over to my post here and then on over to each of the others as the week unfolds. I’ll look forward to seeing you over there . . .

With many blessings on you, your marriage, and the warm summer months to come!

In His grace,
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Summer Marriage Splash Book Recommendations:

The Virtuous LifeThe Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife: 18 Powerful Lessons for Personal Growth by Darlene Schacht

“Powerful, is right. This is such an encouraging and challenging book for any wife to pick up – whether she’s newly married or been married for many years.” ~ Amazon review

Time-WarpWife: Keeping Christ at the Center of Marriage

Women Living Well by Courtney JosephWomen Living Well: Find Your Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids, and Your Home by Courtney Joseph

“I came away from the book with practical tips to loving my family better, making my home a haven and strengthening my relationship with Christ.” ~ Amazon review

WomenLivingWell: Finding Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids and Your Home

Wife After God by Jennifer SmithWife After God: Drawing Closer to God & Your Husband
by Jennifer Smith

“Whether you are going through a rough patch in your marriage (like we all do!) or your marriage is doing wonderfully, there is something in here to encourage, challenge you and help you improve your marriage and your walk with The Lord.” ~ Amazon review

Unveiled Wife: Encouraging Wives Daily

Team US by Ashleigh Slater Team Us: Marriage Together
by Ashleigh Slater

“Team Us is a lighthearted, encouraging read with a poignant message: marriage is one of the greatest adventures God gives us in this life. Make the most of it!” ~ Amazon review

AshleighSlater: Encouraging Couples to do Marriage Together

200429208-001100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson

“This is a “must have” little book for every married woman or yet to be married woman! It comprises 100 practical little thoughts, well laid out and each one profound and challenging in its own way.” ~ Amazon review

Club31Women: Sharing a Passion for Husband, Home and Family

 

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The First 5 Steps Toward a Loving Marriage: A Summer Marriage Splash

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How do you create a loving marriage?

That’s what she asked and that’s the question that stopped me right in my tracks.

It was late afternoon and we had just returned from running errands, so I was scurrying about putting groceries away while trying to figure out what we should have for dinner.

Our daughter had been chattering away at me and I had been listening. Or somewhat listening. But mostly I was concerned how I was going to make room in the freezer for all the ground beef we’d picked up in town.

But when she threw that question at me? Well, that put a halt to everything.

Suddenly dinner – or freezer space – didn’t seem all that important.

I think it was that she used the word create that got my attention. Seemed so insightful for a teenage girl to pick such a word. Not “have” or “get” or even “find” – but CREATE. Such a big, powerful word when you think about it.

So I closed the freezer and we sat down at the kitchen table and dove into a good, long talk.

I closed my eyes and mulled her question over in my mind.

Then I mentioned one thing. Then another. And then finally laughed, “Oh, it’s that and about a hundred other things!”

And that was how the book, 100 Ways to Love Your Husband, really started.

So here’s the beginning answer to that big question, How Do You Create a Loving Marriage?

#1

Always choose love.

Above all things. I Corinthians 13

#2

Greet him with a loving smile.

Who wouldn’t love coming home to that every night? Even if you are tired too. Or have something else on your mind. Put that aside for just a while to make his day wonderful with your warm, loving smile. There are not many smiles out in the world these days, so let yours be one of the few and the best in his life.

#3

Let the little things go.

Don’t hang on to small annoyances. So many marriages have slowly deteriorated over the smallest, silliest things. He doesn’t take out the trash? He snores at night? He’s terrible about leaving the laundry on the floor? It’s not all that big of a deal. Just put it behind you and get on with loving him instead.

#4

Work through the big things.

Take the time to talk those through. Yes, it might mean some hard work and long hours, but it will be worth it. Don’t let the things that really matter go. It’s worth the effort to address it and deal with it. Otherwise, you’re left with a shallow and/or a hurting relationship. No way. Go deep.

#5

Don’t try to change him.

He’s a good man just as he is. He might have room to grow – but then again, so do you. Leave that work to the Holy Spirit. He (the Spirit) is always so much more effective than we’ll ever be. So don’t make it your job to transform him, but to simply love him.

And so goes the list of 100 Ways to Love Your Husband. Simple steps really. But things I wish I’d have known and understood when I started my married life with him. I think it would have helped – helped a lot, actually. Which is why I wrote them down for you, or maybe for someone you know.

So if you’re looking for some fresh ideas or new encouragement in your marriage? I invite you to come along on this journey with me. Or if someone you know is soon to be married , she might  benefit from this “little handbook” on marriage as well (plus there’s the companion book to go with it, 100 Ways to Love Your Wife, written by my husband).

My hope and prayer is that people all over would come to enjoy loving marriages that are lasting and that honor God.

And that’s my prayer for you too.

100 Ways to Love Your Husband: A Life-Long Journey of Learning To Love  is currently available in both print and digital format. You can get the book here.

*This post is the first of the Summer Marriage Splash series going on all this week. Please be sure and check out Darlene’s post on Time-Warp Wife! Also, you can see who’s coming up by peaking at the authors of the books below. 

In His grace,
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Summer Marriage Splash Book Recommendations:

The Virtuous LifeThe Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife: 18 Powerful Lessons for Personal Growth by Darlene Schacht

“Powerful, is right. This is such an encouraging and challenging book for any wife to pick up – whether she’s newly married or been married for many years.” ~ Amazon review

Time-WarpWife: Keeping Christ at the Center of Marriage

Women Living Well by Courtney JosephWomen Living Well: Find Your Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids, and Your Home by Courtney Joseph

“I came away from the book with practical tips to loving my family better, making my home a haven and strengthening my relationship with Christ.” ~ Amazon review

WomenLivingWell: Finding Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids and Your Home

Wife After God by Jennifer SmithWife After God: Drawing Closer to God & Your Husband
by Jennifer Smith

“Whether you are going through a rough patch in your marriage (like we all do!) or your marriage is doing wonderfully, there is something in here to encourage, challenge you and help you improve your marriage and your walk with The Lord.” ~ Amazon review

Unveiled Wife: Encouraging Wives Daily

Team US by Ashleigh Slater Team Us: Marriage Together
by Ashleigh Slater

“Team Us is a lighthearted, encouraging read with a poignant message: marriage is one of the greatest adventures God gives us in this life. Make the most of it!” ~ Amazon review

AshleighSlater: Encouraging Couples to do Marriage Together

200429208-001100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Lisa Jacobson

“This is a “must have” little book for every married woman or yet to be married woman! It comprises 100 practical little thoughts, well laid out and each one profound and challenging in its own way.” ~ Amazon review

Club31Women: Sharing a Passion for Husband, Home and Family

 

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A Book Review – Team US: Marriage Together

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“Our singles pastor says I should just marry you.”

The man across the table informed me before taking yet another nervous bite of his cucumber salad.

The man across the table . . . That was Ted.

This was our first lunch together.

Ted and I had hung out before. Sure, lots of times. Always with a group of friends, though. Never just the two of us. This was something new.

I’d met the crazy-haired, piano-playing, website-designing man my first semester of grad school.

I wish I could say it was love at first sight, but it wasn’t.

I was so consumed with my twelve credit hours and my full-time job that I honestly don’t remember our first introduction. Had I known I’d go on to marry him, I’d have paid closer attention.

. . . Ted remembers his words that day with an I-can’t-believe-I-said-that kind of laugh and comments, “Add that to the list of things not to say on a first kinda-date.”

Little did either of us know that a proposal wasn’t far off though. Within that calendar year, Ted would do more than just tell me [the pastor’s] views on our blooming relationship. He’d propose. And I’d accept with what Ted still claims was a “Yes, of course!”

That December, I’d go on to win the prize for the happiest bride . . . .

~ This post has been excerpted from Team Us by Ashleigh Slater. Used with permission from Moody Publishers © 2014.

Team US with Ted and Ashleigh Slater

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A Club31Women Book Review

Team Us: Marriage Together

Club31Women Book Reviews1A friend of mine recently asked me about my enthusiasm for this newly-released book, Team US: Marriage Together. She was a bit surprised – knowing I am an avid reader and how many books on marriage are out there.

So what’s different about this one? What makes it stand out in your mind?

Good question. And this would be my answer.

1.      Personal.  Rather than a clinical look at marriage, this is a personal look at a real marriage – not only Ted and Ashleigh’s marriage, but others’ as well.

2.      Realistic.  With that in mind, Ashleigh uses real-life examples of ”the good, the bad, and the ugly” in marriage. These are not merely hypothetical situations either, but how it can genuinely look in a relationship. The honesty here is very refreshing.

3.      For both spouses.  I appreciated the way Ted chimes in with his thoughts and perspective. Very effective and helpful to hear from both husband and wife.

4.      Humor.  While the author takes a serious look at marriage, her sense of humor – and her husband’s – made me laugh right aloud a number of times throughout the book. (Okay, so I teared-up a couple of times too, but I can’t tell you about that without a *spoiler alert).

To sum up,  I’ll close with the “official” endorsement written by my husband and me:

Like a conversation with a true friend, this book is open, real, and honest. Ashleigh invites you inside her heart and home to humbly share wisdom gained from experiences she and her husband walked through. Here you’ll find solid teaching that is gentle, yet poignant, with a touch of humor, showing how to trust, to love freely, to keep no record of wrongs…and the many other ways of living that make for a rich, fulfilling marriage. We highly recommend this book for couples of any age. ~ Matthew and Lisa Jacobson

Team US: Marriage Together
by Ashleigh Slater
176 pp, Moody Publishers; (June 1, 2014).

Team US: Marriage Together is a relatively short, highly-readable book consisting of 10 chapters with titles such as, Conflict 101 and Finishing Well. At the end of each chapter is a small section, called Us Time, with questions to consider and discuss with your spouse (if possible). Forward by Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages. Endorsed by Kirk Cameron and Gary Thomas. Highly recommended.

You can get a copy of your book here –  Team Us: Marriage Together

The Slater FamilyThe Slater family goofing around at DisneyWorld. :)

Ted and Ashleigh Slater

 Ted and Ashleigh (the author) Slater

Club31Women Book Reviews will be a regular feature (once or twice-monthly) offered to the community here. I know that there are many books out there  – boy! do I know –  and my desire is to present the ones that, in my opinion,  are stand-outs and worthy of your consideration and time.

I hope you’ve found this review helpful and encouraging.

In His grace,
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FREE Printable: 25 Tips I Want to Share with Younger Wives

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*Last April I shared with you this . . . 

She asked if we could meet for coffee. Clearly, something was on her mind.

She’s a wonderful young lady and full of the hopes and dreams that come with youth. She wants a beautiful marriage. Yet she’d also been around long enough to know that a strong, loving marriage isn’t a guarantee.

So we sat down in a quiet cafe and she asked me outright. What does it take to build a lovely marriage? What advice could I give? What would keep the two of them loving each other in the years to come?

And I thought about the things I wish I would have known from the beginning – those things that really matter at the end of the day. Some are big and some are small, but they all add up over the years to a strong, loving marriage.

Here’s what I want to share with her and any others  looking for that kind of love . . . .

and now this printable is available for those of you who have asked. 

Simply click the link below to download the free printable:

25 Tips I Want to Share with Younger Wives Free Printable

Blessings on your marriage and the loving years to come!

In His grace,

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