Somehow you always think you’ve got time.
And you think you’ll be ready when it comes.Then you realize that the time has arrived…and you’ve so much yet left to say.
That’s how it is with me these days. With four daughters growing up before right before my eyes. Women looking back at me where there once were little girls.
So our time is fast approaching and I see that now. Each day I’m pouring out my thoughts – anxious to get them out before her. Pouring out my blessings and my counsel all over her. A whole flood of them. The dear girl. She’s listening and taking notes.
But I thought it best to write them out for her – for her and all her sisters. And for you too. Just in case…all One Hundred of them.
The first fifty are listed here and now to continue on with the rest.
One Hundred Things
I Want to Share With Her Before She’s a Bride….
51. Do him good. All the days of your life. Proverbs 31:12
52. Keep in mind that marriage can be hard work. But it’s so worth the effort.
53. Speak only those things that edify. That it “may give grace to the hearer.” Ephesians 5:29
54. Sometimes the best thing you to do is not say anything at all.
55. Show appreciation for the many things he does. For both the big and the small things.
56. Look to him as the leader of your home.
57. Make his dreams…your dreams. Treasure them like your own.
58. Look into each other’s eyes. Adoringly and each day.
59. Be extravagant in your love. Go big.
60. Work together. In the garage, the kitchen, the garden, or the barn. It’s always more fun with two.
61. Allow for hormonal fluctuations. But don’t make it an excuse for sin.
62. Speak his love language – what says love to him. And speak it fluently!
63. Don’t make accusations. Ask questions, but don’t begin with blame.
64. Start each day with a smile and a kiss. What better way to begin?
65. Share interests together. As many as possible.
66. Welcome him into your world. Don’t keep him at a distance.
67. Laugh at his jokes. Yes, even if you’ve heard them before.
68. Remember the one you fell in love with. Don’t let him get lost in the dailyness of life.
69. Abide in Christ. And then keep abiding. John 15
70. Cast all your care upon Him. Because He cares for you. I Peter 5:7
71. Fix his favorite foods. You know what they say about the way to a man’s heart…
72. Communicate confidence in who he is and what he’s about. So powerful in a man’s life.
73. Keep tenderness in your love. Don’t let hardness or sharpness creep in to make it brittle.
74. Let him know what you need from him. It might not be as obvious as you think it is.
75. Differentiate what you need…from what you want.
76. Pray through problems. Don’t work it out on your own. Romans 8:26
77. Convince him that he’s the man of your dreams. And he’ll become that man.
78. Give thanks. Always. For all things. Ephesians 5:20
79. Go to the Word when things seem dark. God’s Word will be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path. Psalm 119:105
80. Intertwine your lives wherever possible. Run errands, go for walks, curl up on the couch. Just seek to be together.
81. Make the most of little moments. Don’t wait for sweeping moments – those are mostly found in the movies.
82. Gratefully accept his gifts. Don’t mention the price or how he got it “wrong”. Just be thankful.
83. Always remain lovers. Do the kinds of things that lovers do.
84. Judge him not. That you be not judged. Matthew 7:1
85. Celebrate your anniversary. Do something special together and recognize the grand occasion that it is.
86. Don’t hang out with friends who put him – or their own husbands – down. So destructive.
87. Back him up in his decision-making. He’ll value your support.
88. Give up your need to be right. It’s not as bad as it sounds.
89. Cheerfully help him out. You’re his “help-meet”, aren’t you?
90. The Lord can heal your hurts. Your husband cannot. So don’t resent him for something he can’t do. Psalm 147:3
91. Write little love notes. Tuck them in his lunch. Or write on the bathroom mirror. Send a text message, if you must.
92. Embrace your differences. If you were both the same? How boring would that be.
93. Express enthusiasm for his plans and ideas.
94. Timing can make all the difference in the world. Discuss difficult things when you’re both rested – and fed.
95. Make his priorities your own. Bump them up to the top of your list.
96. Lovingly bear with him. He’ll have his faults (as will you). Ephesians 4:2
97. Fear the Lord. And you shall be praised. Proverbs 31: 30
98. Reach out and touch. A tender touch can do so much good – for you both.
99. Marriage is like a long, slow walk together. More a marathon than a sprint. So just keep walking. Together.
100. Always choose love – again and again.
The greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13
In His grace,