Faith Without Feelings: Encouragement for the Non Emotional Christian Woman
“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” (Jeremiah 31:3)
My two mentees and I were sitting on my deck talking about our mentor study, Red Sea Rules. The night was calm, the string of deck lights illuminating the dark, and the three of us reflected on what we were learning together.
Our conversation turned to a few women in our group who seemed to overflow with passion for God’s Word. They talk about Scripture with tears running down their cheeks. They pray with trembling voices and have this deep love for God “oozing out of their pores.”
The three of us looked at each other and quietly admitted, “That is not us.”
One said, “I do not feel like that.”
Another added, “Me neither. l don’t get those big emotions.”
And I nodded in agreement.
We are steady women. We love God deeply, but our faith does not usually show up in emotional expressions. Sometimes we admire the passion of others and even wish we could respond with that same intensity. But mostly, we wonder if something is wrong with us. Are we missing out because our hearts are not moved in such visible ways? One of the women even questioned if she was truly saved.
When Comparison Creeps In
It is easy to assume that the most emotional expressions of faith are the most genuine. We think the tears, the trembling prayers, the passionate words are proof of spiritual depth. And then those of us who are quieter, more even-tempered, begin to compare.
Should I feel more?
Does my lack of tears mean my faith is weak?
Is something wrong with me spiritually?
And in those quiet moments, other questions sometimes rise. Why do I not feel what others feel? Why does God seem closer to some and quieter with others? My even-keeled heart may not rush toward emotion, but it leans toward questioning the deeper mysteries of faith.
God’s Steady Love
This morning I read these simple words:
“Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken.” (Isaiah 54:10)
There is no drama here, no performance, no demand for an emotional response. Just a declaration – a steady, unchanging love.
God’s love is not measured by how much we feel or how passionately we respond. He loves us because that is who He is. His covenant love is consistent and secure.
Jesus echoed this when He told His disciples,
“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart, I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
He did not pretend life would always feel joyful. He acknowledged that suffering is real. Yet in the middle of it, His victory is the anchor.
Even when we cannot feel His presence, His love holds. Even when our prayers sound quiet instead of passionate, His heart toward us does not change.
Two Gifts in the Body of Christ
Over time, I have come to see that both personalities are needed.
- Emotionally expressive believers remind us of the beauty of God’s Word. Their tears soften our hearts, their passion stirs us to remember that Scripture is alive and powerful. Their compassion reflects the tenderness of God.
- Steady, less emotional personalities reflect God’s constancy. Their quiet trust shows us perseverance. Their faithful obedience testifies that God’s love is not dependent on feeling but on truth.
Neither is better than the other. Together, we reveal more of who God is.
Application for You
Maybe you are like me, comparing yourself to the passionate women and wondering if your quieter faith is enough. Hear this clearly today: your steady faith is not lesser faith. God delights in your consistency and in the way you lean on His love, even when you don’t feel strong emotions.
Or maybe you are the expressive one, overflowing with feeling and compassion. Your gift is beautiful and needed, and your passion often inspires others.
Together we form a stronger Body.
And when suffering comes, as it will, both personalities turn toward God in their own way. One cries out with tears, the other holds questions in the quiet. Both are real. Both are valid. Both matter to Him.
A Reframed Mind
Instead of asking, “Why am I not more like her?” what if we asked, “How has God made me a reflection of Himself?”
Instead of saying, “Why does God let us suffer?” what if we remembered His first words to His people: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” (Jeremiah 31:3)
God’s love is steady. His love is secure. It does not rise or fall with our emotions. It holds firm through both joy and sorrow.
A Closing Prayer
Lord, thank You for loving me with an unchanging love. Forgive me for comparing myself to others or doubting how You designed me. Remind me that You have loved me with a steady, faithful love. Teach me to honor both passion and perseverance in the Body of Christ. And when I face suffering, help me remember that You have overcome the world. Amen.
In His Word
Romans 8:38–39 “For I am convinced that neither death nor life … nor any powers … will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
- How does knowing that nothing can separate you from His love shift how you view your faith today?
- Where have you seen God’s steady love in your life, even in seasons when your emotions felt quiet?
- How does your personality reflect God’s character?
We Recommend
One book that is deeply encouraging me now is The Red Sea Rules by Robert J. Morgan. It offers ten practical and biblical principles for trusting God in difficult times, drawn from the story of Israel trapped at the Red Sea. If you ever find yourself wrestling with fear, comparison, or suffering, these simple rules will help you see God’s hand at work and remind you of His steady love and care for you.
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Tracy Hoth is a certified life and organizing coach. With 17 years of experience helping women simplify their homes and businesses, she equips Christian women to clear the clutter, create systems that soothe, and build lives of purpose and peace. Through her courses, coaching, and podcast, The Organized Coach, she teaches practical tools to get organized without the pressure of perfection. Find more at simplysquaredaway.com and follow her on Instagram @tracyhoth.