I tend to be the talker in our relationship.
And my husband knows that about me.
Thankfully, he likes that about me too.
Whenever we go out for one of our afternoon drives, he’ll grab the wheel, and before we’re at the end of the driveway, he’ll say, “Okay, babe, start talking.”
I don’t have to be asked twice.
This is my cue to begin the download: the things I’ve been struggling with, worried about, or excited by.
All the things.
He drives, and I talk.
If You Need Someone to Listen
But one day I decided to do a long-overdue experiment.
What if I didn’t do so much of the talking? What if I kept quiet instead?
And not an “I’m put out” kind of quiet, but more of an “I’m listening, if you have something on your mind” kind of quiet.
Sure enough, after some time had passed, he began to tell me things I’d not heard before. He shared dreams I’d not known he’d tucked away and burdens I’d not realized he carried.
He only needed someone to listen.
And from then on, I was determined that someone would be me.
Perhaps your husband could use a reminder that you’d be glad to listen to whatever is on his heart, or weighing on his mind.
Make it clear that you’re there for him.
I’m here if you ever need someone to listen.
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