6 Things Every Sister is Really Hoping to Hear from Her Brother

6 Things Every Sister is Really Hoping to Hear from Her Brother

I am a middle child.

The only sister between two brothers.

And we grew up the way most families grew up in our neighborhood. Sometimes we fought and sometimes we had fun. We played board games together, rode the bus to school, went on camping trips, and launched huge pillow fights when our parents weren’t home (sorry about that, mom!).

I don’t remember my brothers every being truly mean to me and I knew, deep down, that they loved me.

But we didn’t really talk much about that.

Okay, we didn’t talk about it at all. It just wasn’t cool or comfortable for brothers and sisters to say that kind of stuff to each other.

So I had to wait until we were older – as in, grown-up, married-with-families-of-our-own, older – to hear that they loved and appreciated me.

And by then I was glad to hear it. Really, really glad.

But I don’t want our daughters to have to wait until they’re married and moved out to hear from their brothers. I want our sons to say what should be said now, while they’re still living in the same house together.

Because although he might not realize it, a good brother can make all the difference in a girl’s life.

Why wait until years down the road – if ever – to tell your sister what she needs to hear?

So, for all you dear brothers out there, this is for you . . . . 

6 Things Every Sister is Really Hoping to Hear from Her Brother

You are valued. You mean a lot to me and, if I’ve never told you this before, I’m thankful to have you as my sister. You’re the best!

You are lovely. And I don’t only mean “pretty” (although I think you’re that too), but that you’re a really lovely person. You bring beauty into all our lives.

You are smart. I know we don’t always see things the same way, but I like how you think and appreciate hearing your thoughts about life and ideas and adventures.

You are protected. Because I’ll do all I can to look after you. I’m watching out for you, Sis.

You are gifted. You are one talented lady and I admire your many strengths. You’re so good at whatever you set out to do and I believe you’ll go and do great things some day.

You are loved. In case you’ve been wondering, yes, I love you. And always will. No matter where life takes us and what God has planned for our future.

I will always love you, Sis.

Then you just might prepare yourself for the big hug that will probably come your way.

Because sisters can be like that.

And then you might want to hug her back.

Because you can almost bet that she’s really hoping for that too.

So go ahead and say it. A brother can make all the difference in a girl’s heart. 

What Every Sister is Really Hoping to Hear From Her Brother
*This is the companion post to 6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear from His Sister which was in response to a young reader’s original question:  What does my brother need to hear from me?

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6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear from His Sister

6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear From His Sister

What does my brother need to hear from me? As his sister?

That’s the question the young lady posed to me.

While I’ve been asked many things since I started this blog, this one was a first.

And it was a great question.

You see, we have four sons and four daughters. Four brothers and four sisters.

And we’ve seen the power that a sibling’s voice has in your life. We’ve watched it play out over the years – for building up, or for tearing down.

We also know adults who still struggle with the voices of their childhood and have been impressed with the staying power of a sibling’s influence.

In other words, a sibling’s voice is strong . Very strong.

When you and I were growing up? Families focused on simply trying to stay together. Not a lot of thought was put into sibling relationships and how they would affect the rest of our lives.

Sure, kids bicker and fight. Some get along and some don’t.

But what a brother needs from his sister? What a sister needs from her brother? Probably not much purposeful guidance there.

So let’s do it differently. Let’s teach our daughters what their brothers need to hear from them. Let’s help them understand the powerful role they have in their brothers’ lives and how much they can build up and influence them to be their best.

6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear from His Sister:

I respect you. Every young man – no matter how young – needs to feel respect from the women in his life. I can’t even explain why this is so very powerful, but I can testify that it’s a strong need in every guy’s life.

I appreciate you. Your brother wants to know he is valued for the contribution he makes to the family – and more specifically to your life. Don’t neglect to express your thankfulness for who he is and all that he adds to your lives.

I depend on you. Even our very youngest guy like to feel he is somehow indispensable. He needs to know we count on him and that he plays an important role in our family.

I like you. Just the way you are. I enjoy your unique qualities and, yes, even your very own personality quirks. Basically, I think you’re a neat person.

I am loyal to you. You’ll never need to worry about what I’ll say to others about you. You can be assured that I will always have your back. I’ll keep our disagreements between ourselves and not put you down in front of others.

I am there for you. You can count on me, if you need something or just someone to listen to you. I’m not going anywhere and plan on being your sister for a very long time. My hope is that we’ll always be close, wherever God takes us down the road.

Sisters, you might not fully realize what a difference you can make in a young man’s life, but you have the chance to be the voice in your brother’s life that he will carry with him for many years to come.

Use your voice well. Say it with words and say it with actions.

Let him know that you love him and you want to be the sister he needs.

What Every Brother Needs to Hear From His Sister
*You might also be interested in the companion post: 6 Things Every Sister Is Really Hoping to Hear From Her Brother.  And ,while all these might also apply in the reverse, this post is the specific response to a young lady’s question: What does a brother need to hear from his sister? and was addressed as such. Thank you for understanding.

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How a Little Yes Can Change a Big World: A Review of Rhinestone Jesus

Rhinestone Jesus
Sometimes saying yes is the hardest thing you’ll ever do.

I know. Because I’ve said a yes or two and it felt a little like jumping off a cliff.

Something of a free fall.

But some of the most challenging things in my life . . . have turned out to be the very best things too. Maybe you know what I mean?

So that’s why I was immediately drawn to this newly released book: Rhinestone Jesus: Saying Yes to God When Sparkly, Safe Faith Is No Longer Enough by Kristen Welch

If you pick it up, be prepared to be challenged. Convicted, even.

And, no, Kristen doesn’t just ask us all to go to Africa.

Instead she tells the story of how God inspired her and her family to start Mercy House, a Christian home for pregnant girls living in the streets of Kenya.

It’s truly an amazing story.

Mercy House Kenya
But it’s not the only amazing story in the book.

It’s also a touching story of love and forgiveness in her own marriage.

We knew it would be the greatest battle of our lives–this choice to walk in freedom and forgiveness–but we decided in the middle of our devastation that we would fight for wholeness in our marriage. ~ Kristen Welch in Rhinestone Jesus

It’s an inspiring story of motherhood and family.

Looking at my life, some people would say I have gotten to do some big things for God. But the most significant thing I’ve done for Jesus is to love and serve my family. Motherhood becomes me, and God uses it daily to refine me and draw me closer to Him. ~ Kristen Welch in Rhinestone Jesus

It’s a story of God’s miraculous provision.

God is constantly reminding me to look behind, to look at how far He has brought us, how many miracles He’s performed along the way, how many mountains He’s moved on our behalf, how many times He’s rescued and healed, how much hope He has given. ~ Kristen Welch in Rhinestone Jesus

Mostly it’s a story of the Gospel walked out by an ordinary wife and mom.  It’s beautiful.

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Club31Women Book Reviews1Kristen has an engaging writing style that is easy to read—sprinkled generously with her wonderful sense of humor and refreshing honesty. Wherever you’re at in life – young or old, married or single – I think you’ll find her message compelling and inspiring.

After all, isn’t it encouraging to see how just one little “yes” can impact a big world?

Here are a few of the chapters titles you’ll find in her book:
· When Motherhood Becomes You
· Finding Beauty in the Broken Pieces
· The Yes That Changed Our Family
· Defeating My Biggest Foes
· Start Small Today

So if you’re looking for something wonderful to read this summer? This is one of those at the top of my list.*

You can pick up Kristin’s book here (click the link below):

Rhinestone Jesus: Saying Yes to God When Sparkly, Safe Faith Is No Longer Enough

You can also visit Kristin over at her blog, WeAreTHATFamily, where she writes on marriage, parenting, ministry and more.

The Welch Family of We Are THAT Family

I hope you’ve found this Club31Women Book Review helpful and inspiring!

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*While I might not personally adhere to every view presented  in each book, my recommendations are based on what I believe to be – on the whole – an edifying, encouraging, and/or challenging read for the Christian life.

Six Reasons Why You Might Want to Consider Homeschooling

 Six Reasons Why You Might Want to Consider Homeschooling

I will never homeschool.

I should have known better than to ever make a big statement like that. It seems like whenever I do, it nearly always comes back to haunt me. You’d think I would have learned my lesson by now.

It’s not that I was against homeschooling, mind you. It’s just that, well, how can I put this…?

I didn’t think I was the homeschooling “type”.  Whatever that means.

But wouldn’t you know it, the Lord kept putting it on my heart and in my path, until I finally gave in. Reluctantly. I guess I’ll try this thing out for a while.

I mean, how hard can it be to homeschool a five-year-old?

In some ways, harder than I thought.  But funner (is that considered a real word yet?) than I expected too.

From there we kept going. One year at a time. One child, then two. Then eight.

Alright, so we didn’t really jump to eight – it only seemed that way at times.

Homeschooling the Boys

Now our five-year-old is a junior in college. Oh, except he’s not five anymore, he’s 20.  He’s thriving at school, works hard, and, above all, loves the Lord.  And, yes, he was homeschooled.

So for those of you who are like me and wondering – or doubting – if you’re the homeschooling type? Here are some things to consider:

Time.   It does take time, but less than you might think. We “formally” school a few hours in the morning. On the good days. The rest of the time we enjoy working, learning and playing together. I’d say more happens in our “off” hours than our sit-down ones.

Relationship.   This is what “sold” me on homeschooling. The chance to love and disciple our children all day long. Not always easy, but the investment has been invaluable. I’m grateful for all the relationship-building hours we have together.

Discipline.   And, no, I’m not talking about the kids here. I’m talking about my own. Organizing our kids’ education has been a terrific challenge in my life. Making myself do things even when I didn’t feel like it has been good for me. (Yes, that was a confession).

Grace.   So I’ve learned some discipline. And I’ve learned grace. My older children even complain a little about it. They say I was way more uptight with them than I am with the younger ones. Truly? That’s a good sign. That means that grace is gaining ground around here. Like hearing that!

Prayer. Um…you wouldn’t be put off if I told you that homeschooling has had a powerful impact on my prayer life, would you? I’ve had to pray about curriculum, classes, squabbles, and schedules. Prayed for wisdom, mercy, patience (!), and spiritual insight. I’d become a downright Prayer Warrior by the time our eldest was filling out college applications.

Growth. I love watching our kids grow. I love seeing the people they’re becoming and the work God is doing in their lives. I love seeing them grow strong – not just on the outside, but on the inside too.  I also love being able to grow and learn right alongside them.

So it would seem that I might be the homeschooling type after all. Our kids are learning. Their mom is learning – and about way more than just homeschooling.

Like, never say never, for instance.

Because I’ll be homeschooling again this year.

Wondering about homeschooling? Doubting? Go ahead and ask and I’ll do my best to answer!

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