How to Restore Your Soul…When You Feel Like You’re Losing Your Mind

How to Restore Your Soul When You Feel Like You're Losing Your Mind

To this day I don’t know just how it happened.

She was the most adorable baby girl you’ve ever seen and I was beside myself with gratefulness for her.

First there was her big brother who was very busy and all of 18 months old.

Then there was this tiny pink thing.

My very own sweetheart.

She was beautiful alright, but not the greatest sleeper. She wanted to nurse all night long and it took some of the fun out of it, if you know what I mean?

So I’d been doing this all-night party thing for several weeks when I started getting delirious. A little loco.

One night I found myself walking with her in circles until 2 am  when finally . . . at last . . . got the baby darling to sleep. I gently tucked her in bed and quietly crawled in next to my sound-out husband.

And collapsed into a deep sleep.

For about 12 whole minutes.

That’s when I heard her soft cries starting up again.

I roused myself and leaned over the white, lacy crib and I . . .well, I screamed.  

Something like this: Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!!

My poor husband bolted upright in bed, immediately on high-alert. “What is going on here?!”

I stared at him wide-eyed—nearly as shocked as he was. Disbelief at what I’d done. Ashamed and embarrassed.

“I dunno, Honey. I guess I kinda . . . snapped.”

And so her daddy tenderly picked up our baby-doll and took over where I left off. But as he left the room, he gently admonished,

“Hey, don’t let yourself get in that place again, okay?”

Ah yes, That Place.

I can assure you that I never intended to “get there”.

Since then – four boys and four girls later – I’ve learned more on how to avoid getting to That Place.

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Here are a few tips on how to restore your soul when you feel like you’re losing your mind. A mix of spiritual, physical, and just plain practical ways to keep from yelling into the baby’s crib and other crazy-mama moments . . .

What to Do When You Feel Like You’re Losing Your Mind

1)  Get the rest you require. Make it a high priority because it can make all the difference. Sleep deprivation is a terrible thing. Go to bed early or take a nap. Ask friends or family to take over and curl up in a quiet place. Get serious about getting some sleep.

2)  Do this in Christ’s strength. Not your own. Don’t convince yourself that “I” can do this, but minister in His power rather than your own. Place Bible verses around the house, sing praises, and pray as you go throughout your day. Motherhood is a spiritual endeavor.

3)  Don’t neglect your own needs. Sometimes a mom gets so busy she forgets to eat right, to shower, and even go to the bathroom. She forgets to love with her husband or talk to a good friend. My dear, how can you fill up your child’s heart if yours is on empty?

4)  Be willing to ask for help. At first it felt rather stupid and weak, but I figured it was better than a break down. So one older lady folded clothes for me. Another teen girl came over to play with the children. We even sacrificed for a season and had a cleaning lady come in.

It’s now been 19 years since I yelled into the crib.

How to Restore Your Soul When You Think You're Losing Your MindThat baby girl is now a lovely young lady and I’ve asked if she remembered me losing it with her?

She put her arms around me and said she only remembers snuggling together, reading stories aloud, and splashing in mud puddles.

And I’m beside myself with gratefulness.

My very own sweetheart.

Resting in Him.

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*How about you? What kinds of things do you do to restore your soul? I hope you’ll share with us!

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Free Printable: 17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment

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Sometimes my husband comes in and says to me, Will you just sit down?

Stop what you’re doing and rest a while.

And I start to protest. Explain to him all that I have to do and take care of and finish up and . . . .

And I forget that one of the things I need to do? The thing that you need to do too?

Is rest.


Maybe you’re too tired, too busy to even remember what it means to renew your body and soul.

So here’s a new “To Do” list for you.

Yesterday I wrote down all these creative ways to rest. For you and for me. Bunches of different ways we can find a little quiet and renewal.

You can post it on your refrigerator or your bathroom mirror – anywhere that you can see it and be reminded that God designed for you to rest too.

Rest, my friend, and be refreshed.

(Click the link below to download as a free printable)

17 Wonderful Ways to Find Rest & Refreshment – Printable


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Resting in Him,

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17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment

17 Wonderful Ways A Woman Can Find Rest and Refreshment

Poured out.

That’s how I’d describe it.

Not simply tired or busy, but completely poured out.

It wasn’t a complaint or even a whine. Just a stated fact.

I was run-down.

Now please understand, I LOVE what I do. I love being a wife and I’m happy being a mom. I enjoy running our home and I’m grateful for church and ministry.

But sometimes . . . sometimes, I get worn out. Plain and simple. With nothing left to give.

And that’s not a good place for a woman to find herself in, is it?

Done in and wiped out.

So I’ve learned that if I’m going to do this thing—this wifely-motherly-homemakey-workey-ministry thing—for the long-term? Then I needed to figure out how to find rest and refreshment so I can have what it takes to pour out to others.

A lot like you.

I need to stop. Rest. Restore. Refresh.

Now I can almost hear you protesting from here . You’ve got young children. You work two jobs. You’re taking care of your parents, or maybe his. You’ve been ill, or someone in your family has been sick. Possibly for a long time. You’re homeschooling, or carpooling, or running a ministry.

You can’t stop . . . and yet you’re poured out.

So today I’m going to share – not just one way, but 17 wonderful ways you can find rest and refreshment. And maybe you can’t do all of them, but I’m certain you can pull off at least one of them. Probably more, if you set your mind to it.

So pause a moment, won’t you? And rest along the way. 

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17 Wonderful Ways a Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment

  1. Go for a walk.  Not only does a walk refresh your heart and mind, but it can also refresh your body. If I can’t get my walk in earlier in the day, I’ll pop something in the oven and when my husband gets home I’ll give him that look – the one that says I think I just might go insane if I don’t get out for some fresh air.
  2. Run a hot bath. Soaking in a warm tub, with a drop or two of essential oils, eases my stress and tired body. Makes you sleep better that night too!
  3. Read a good book. I don’t even know if I can explain it, but when I got lost in a good book, it soothes my mind and renews my perspective.(Here’s a great recommendation if you want one: Evidence Not Seen.)
  4. Change your attitude. It’s amazing how much more energy you have when you’re not fighting against what God has called you to do. So if you sense you have resistance?  Then repent, rejoice, and see how renewed you feel!
  5. Sing a song. We used to take our children on these long hikes and toward the end, when their little bodies were starting to droop, we’d sing a song the last way down the mountain. Well, it works for grown-ups too!
  6. Create a place of rest. See this swing on our front porch? This small spot of sunshine? This is one of my best places of rest. Slipping out there for a few moments does my weary spirit good (even if a small person sometimes finds me there – see #9).Swinging
  7. Pray quietly. When it’s crazy-busy and everyone is bustling about, maybe whining and crying (and that would include me too), I’ll slip back to my bedroom, kneel down, and say a small prayer. Asking God to give the strength and grace needed to carry out this day. *Highly recommended
  8. Give thanks. This one is closely related to #4 above. Rather than focus on the trials and the challenges, begin giving thanks – preferably aloud – for all the blessings that you enjoy. You just might have more than you remembered.
  9. Snuggle up. With someone you love. My personal favorite.  Taking a few minutes to cuddle with a little person . . . or maybe that Man of Yours, if he’s around. Or sometimes I just give hugs all around – from the youngest to our teens!
  10. Cancel an activity. Ha! You didn’t even know you could do this, did you! Well, you can. The world will still keep going ’round, even if you do cancel a class, a meeting, or event (I know, because I’ve tried it).
  11. Take a power nap. This is one of my secret weapons: the 20 minute power nap. Fan, ear plugs, covers over my head . . . and recharge! Try it, you’ll find it works wonders.
  12. Do something you love. Maybe this seems counter-intuitive, but sometimes doing something is even more refreshing than doing nothing. For me that might mean baking homemade bread, but for you it might mean painting, scrapbooking, writing, or building. Take an hour and just do it! You’ll feel better when you do. Rest and Refreshment - Making Bread
  13. Call a friend. Talk on the phone or see if she can meet you for coffee. Being able to laugh, cry, or share my struggles with a friend can be very healing.
  14. Turn in early. Another ha! Go to bed at an insanely early hour. Don’t watch TV, close your computer (well, after you’ve read this post, of course), forget the nagging piles, and just. Go. To. Sleep. I’m telling ya, 8 hours of sleep can make you into a new woman!
  15. Slip away for a short break. Schedule a break, dear lady. No one (no one!) was made to keep going 24 hours a day, 7 days a week–and that even includes you. Get creative if you have to, but make it happen.
  16. Soak in the truth of Scripture. Place Bible verses strategically around your house or work area that remind you of Who you can rest in. (You can get free printable Scripture cards right here.)
  17. Enjoy the beauty of God’s creation. Just stepping outside and enjoying what the Creator has designed can reach your soul and renew your spirit. Wherever you live, look up at the vast sky or find a small flower that fills you with joy and wonder.  (I love to share the beauties of the Pacific Northwest here.)

Rest and Refreshment - The Three Sisters Mountains

Don’t you feel better already? Knowing  you have all these wonderful options? I thought you might.

Pick one to try . . . and then another.  Maybe even one a day!

Rest, my friend, and be refreshed. 

For I will satisfy the weary soul, and every languishing soul I will replenish. ~ Jer. 31:25

*What are some of the ways you find rest and refreshment? I’d love to hear!

Resting in Him,

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P.S. Yes! Here’s a printable of these 17 Wonderful Ways. Something for you to hang up where you can see it when you’re too tired to think of ways to rest.

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Free Printable: 8 Scriptures for When You’re Needing Rest & Refreshment

8 Scripture Cards for When You're Needing Rest & Refreshment

Are you in need of some rest and refreshment? 


Yeah, me too.

And I’ve had the most delightful opportunity to enjoy just that . . . in the beautiful state of Montana.

It felt so funny packing my suitcase and heading to the airport while it was still dark early this morning. I can hardly remember the last time I flew on a plane, all by myself.

I think I was pregnant with our 7th child.

Who is now 10 year old – if that gives you any idea.

I wish I could invite every one of you to come along! Wouldn’t that be lovely?

Well, we can’t quite pull that off, but at least I can share some of the pictures over on Instagram, if you’re over there.

AND I promise to later pass on the things that God presses upon my heart this week-end as I get to visit my dear friend Christy (who often writes for us here!) and attend a writers’ retreat with some other Christian friends gathering there.

I’ve actually been thinking a lot about Rest and Refreshment lately and how important it is to us as women and as believers in Christ. And here are 17 Wonderful Ways a Woman Can Find Rest & Refreshment, if you’re looking for some creative ideas!

For now, let me share one of the very best ways – soaking in God’s Word and resting in Him. 

Scripture Cards for Rest and Refreshment Part 1
Click the link below to download these verses as a  free printable:

8 Scripture Cards for Rest and Refreshment – Part 1

8 Scripture Cards for When You're Needing Rest & Refreshment Part 2
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8 Scripture Cards for Rest and Refreshment – Part 2

Many blessings to you, my friends!

Resting in Him.

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