If he would just listen to me – really hear me out – then we could be done with this argument and move on with our life!
Ever been there? Ever had those kind of thoughts?
I would venture to say we have all found ourselves in the position where we knew for a fact we were right and our husbands were wrong. If you’re like me, sometimes you want to grab him by the shoulders and give him a gentle – maybe not so gentle – shake and say, “I’m right!”
Fortunately, I don’t know many people who that has actually worked for. If they tried, I’m sure the complete opposite of what they wanted would happen.
So what’s a Christian girl to do?
These are my 5 tips when he is wrong and you are right . . . some may surprise you.
1. Prayer. This is absolutely the best thing we can do.
We may indeed be right, but the only way for our husbands to see that is through a good old-fashioned heart change. A heart change from the only one who can, God. I have found that there is always a change of heart, but it may not be my husbands…it may be mine.
Psalm 51:10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
2. An appeal. Once heated words have fizzled, try approaching him again, but in a humble way.
This should not be about pride or proving oneself. State your reason for why you feel a certain way then leave it at that. This is not, “Giving in,” but is kind, reverent, and thought-provoking.
3. Submission. There is such power in submission.
When we can yield to another even when we feel the urge to stomp around is delightful in the eyes of the Lord and is the ultimate use of self-control.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
4. A quiet and gentle spirit.
I’ve tried nagging and it doesn’t work. In fact, it’s one of the quickest way to put a barrier up. Our husbands need and deserve our respect no matter what we feel in our hearts. Sometimes we just have to obey the Word of God and trust Him.
1 Peter 3:4 …but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.
5. Captivate your thoughts.
When those of thoughts of shaking his shoulders flood through our mind we must take them captive immediately before they penetrate our hearts.
2 Corinthians 10:5 We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.
The arguments and disagreements will come—it’s inevitable. There must be a line that we as faithful women draw, a boundary.
We have to prayerfully know when to back down and trust God and let Him do His thing.
Our husband’s heart may change in the process, or it may be our own. The most important thing we can do is to invite Jesus in on it, on all aspects of our life. When we do this, the arguments are no longer in vain, but can be used for the glory of God to reveal hearts and bridge the differences together.
*How about you? Have you been in a similar situation and gave it to God? What changed?
Brittany, Sweet Country Roots
Brittany Styron lives life in North Carolina. She is a believer in Jesus Christ, a wife, and momma to four amazing kids. She has a passion for country living, cooking, any thing vintage, gardening, homeschooling, and encouraging women in their roles as wives and mothers. She blogs honestly about all these things at Sweet Country Roots. You can find her on Facebook at facebook.com/sweetcountryroots
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