I am a middle child.
The only sister between two brothers.
And we grew up the way most families grew up in our neighborhood. Sometimes we fought and sometimes we had fun. We played board games together, rode the bus to school, went on camping trips, and launched huge pillow fights when our parents weren’t home (sorry about that, mom!).
I don’t remember my brothers every being truly mean to me and I knew, deep down, that they loved me.
But we didn’t really talk much about that.
Okay, we didn’t talk about it at all. It just wasn’t cool or comfortable for brothers and sisters to say that kind of stuff to each other.
So I had to wait until we were older – as in, grown-up, married-with-families-of-our-own, older – to hear that they loved and appreciated me.
And by then I was glad to hear it. Really, really glad.
But I don’t want our daughters to have to wait until they’re married and moved out to hear from their brothers. I want our sons to say what should be said now, while they’re still living in the same house together.
Because although he might not realize it, a good brother can make all the difference in a girl’s life.
Why wait until years down the road – if ever – to tell your sister what she needs to hear?
So, for all you dear brothers out there, this is for you . . . .
6 Things Every Sister is Really Hoping to Hear from Her Brother
You are valued. You mean a lot to me and, if I’ve never told you this before, I’m thankful to have you as my sister. You’re the best!
You are lovely. And I don’t only mean “pretty” (although I think you’re that too), but that you’re a really lovely person. You bring beauty into all our lives.
You are smart. I know we don’t always see things the same way, but I like how you think and appreciate hearing your thoughts about life and ideas and adventures.
You are protected. Because I’ll do all I can to look after you. I’m watching out for you, Sis.
You are gifted. You are one talented lady and I admire your many strengths. You’re so good at whatever you set out to do and I believe you’ll go and do great things some day.
You are loved. In case you’ve been wondering, yes, I love you. And always will. No matter where life takes us and what God has planned for our future.
I will always love you, Sis.
Then you just might prepare yourself for the big hug that will probably come your way.
Because sisters can be like that.
And then you might want to hug her back.
Because you can almost bet that she’s really hoping for that too.
So go ahead and say it. A brother can make all the difference in a girl’s heart.
*This is the companion post to 6 Things Every Brother Needs to Hear from His Sister which was in response to a young reader’s original question: What does my brother need to hear from me?
In His grace,
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Lisa is the happily-ever-after wife of Matt Jacobson and together they enjoy raising and home-educating their 8 children in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. She encourages women to embrace the rich life of loving relationships and the high calling of being a wife and mother. Lisa is the author of 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and her husband is the author of 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt and Lisa are also the co-hosts of the FAITHFUL LIFE podcast where they talk about what it means to be a biblical Christian in marriage, parenting, church, and culture.