I remember the day we moved to our current home.
The carpets needed a good cleaning, the fixtures were dated, and my master bedroom was half the size of my previous one. I knew all of this when we decided to make this our new home. However, I still found myself looking for imperfections and making mental lists of all of our future weekend projects.
The funny thing is that this home was an upgrade from our last place.
Our previous home had foundation issues, the basement would flood when it rained, and the walls were splitting. The home was literally falling apart.
So why was I not elated about our new place?
It wasn’t long before I realized that my ungrateful heart was the real problem and not my home. Here I was in a perfectly safe and clean home complaining about things that weren’t trivial. The same person that several years ago did not have her own bed to rest on.
I know it’s easy to feel that our homes don’t measure up when we are constantly flooded with images of designer homes by the media. Unfortunately, we wind up losing sight of what home truly is: a place to meet with God in secret, a haven for our family, and a place to share the love of Christ with others.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting your home to look beautiful. But when we deem our home inadequate because it doesn’t meet society’s standard, we end up planting a seed of discontentment that is not pleasing to God.
With so many families struggling to keep a roof over their heads, we need to reevaluate the desires of our heart. How can we expect a greater blessing when we can’t be content where we’re currently planted?
How to Love Your Imperfect Home
Here are some ways to start shifting your attitude and find contentment in the space you’ve been blessed with:
Focus on the positive
It’s easy to focus on the negative aspects of your home. But imagine how much your attitude would change if you focused on the positive things your home has to offer?
Perhaps you live in a small home. I personally live in a home that’s considered small by American standards, but I love the fact that I spend less time having to clean it. We also don’t have a big backyard in our current home. However, I’m grateful that my husband doesn’t have to dedicate an entire evening to landscaping.
Make a list of what you love about your home as a reminder and begin to embrace the place where God has planted you.
Make it a haven
Your home should be your family’s haven. A place to enjoy and create new memories together.
Light up your favorite candle scents, create a comfy nook that your family can enjoy, or play uplifting music. I personally enjoy clearing out clutter and having a clean space that enables me to relax. I also have a few of my favorite Bible verses and quotes around the home. These are little things that can instantly change your mood and space.
Figure out what brings you joy and recreate it in your home.
This is tough for me because I’m an introvert and a perfectionist. Both traits that can get in the way of hospitality. I wind up stressing myself out with cleaning and cooking that I lose sight of what’s truly important.
However, God desires for us to have a heart of service, and what better way than by opening our home to others. Our home is a tool that we can use to fellowship and share our testimony with those that need to witness the love of Christ. This will also help you embrace your space in a new positive way.
It’s easy to focus on the negative and lose sight of how truly blessed we are. Each day take the time to thank God for your home, keeping in mind that this is not our permanent home.
When I find myself complaining about my tiny closet, I remind myself to thank the Lord for all of the clothes I’ve been blessed with.
Gratitude is being content in our circumstances regardless of what they may be.
“Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.” ~ Philippians 4:11 (ESV)
Do you find yourself struggling with discontentment?
My prayer is that you will find peace and joy in your current home. Trust that God only wants what’s best for you, and that even your “imperfect” home is part of His perfect plan.
My Homemaking Mentor
The idea of homemaking can feel very overwhelming. Everything from cooking meals to keeping up on laundry, cleaning the house, training our children, and even intentionally loving our husbands can seem out of reach when we don’t know where to being or have the tools to help us.
Even seasoned homemakers can use help as seasons of life change, and you find yourself in unchartered territory. You go from chasing toddlers and changing diapers to chauffeuring teenagers and talking late into the night with them.
How can we keep up with it all and run the race of homemaker and wife and mother well?
*Important Note: Below I’m sharing more about this online Mentoring Academy for Homemakers – something I wish I would have had access to when I was a younger wife and mother. But if you’re not in a place right now to do something like this – whether financially or just plain headspace – then that’s okay too. I only want to share things that will bless you—not as “one more thing” to add to your already full plate.
“My Homemaking Mentor has completely turned around my home. From learning simple cleaning routines to help me manage to keep a home as a busy small business owner/work from home mom, to helping me dig deep into the Lord’s Word and learning how to live intentionally and help my family to do the same this resource has been something that I have been able to reach out to time and time again.
As women, Christians and homemakers, it is sometimes so hard to manage all the “hats” that we wear, but Jami and her team has done an incredible job at being informative and reminding me that I am not alone in this!” – Ashley
How would you like to have people come alongside you who have been there, to offer you their best tips, ideas, strategies, and secrets to bringing joy, peace, and organization into your home? It can be done!
Join us as at My Homemaking Mentor Academy where we share real life experience with you — not something learned from a book, but something we’ve actually put into practice in our own homes.
There are 12 amazing mentors sharing practical training on homemaking through 15 video-based courses (over 50 videos).
Some of the courses included:
- 100 Ways to Love Your Husband by Yours Truly 🙂
- Cleaning Routines and Schedules by Marci Ferrel from Thankful Homemaker
- Intentional and Purposeful Life Planning by Leigh Ann Dutton from Intentional By Grace
- Encouragement for Weary Moms by Jennifer Ross
- Meal Planning Bootcamp by Jami Balmet
- and many more!
So if you’re a homemaker in need of some hands-on help, then help is here! I invite you to My Homemaking Mentor Academy.