It’s true. We’ve experienced some sweeping moments in our marriage.
Like when we exchanged wedding vows on a lovely September morning.
When our first precious child was born.
Or when we learned that our fifth child would never walk or talk.
When he threw me that fabulous party for my 40th.
Or when I found him unconscious on the bathroom floor. Praying that God would spare his life.
Oh, we’ve had some big moments to be sure.
But there are many days, weeks, and even months in between all those. Sipping coffee, heading to work, running errands, making dinner, putting kids to bed, and snuggling into each other at night.
Little bits of love tucked into the everyday of our lives.
95 Moments That Add Up to I Love You
1. Telling him about my day. The ups and the downs.
2. Hearing all about his happenings too.
3. Holding hands. Any chance we get.
4. Saying hello with a kiss.
5. Not mentioning the bad breath. Either his or mine.
6. Curling up against his warm back at midnight.
7. Sitting next to him in church.
8. And nudging each other when the sermon particularly applies.
9. Warming up his side of the bed.
10. Or grateful when he’s already warmed up my side.
11. Sharing a cup of coffee. In the early morning hours.
12. Calling in the middle of the day. Just ’cause I miss him.
13. Taking turns getting up at night. With a fussy baby.
14. Waking me gently. With his soft touch.
15. Laughing at his jokes. Even if I’ve heard them all before.
16. Smiling. Because he’s come home early.
17. Heading upstairs together to put the kids to bed.
18. Thankful when he’s the one who’s willing to tuck them in.
19. Texting a sweet little message.
20. Or maybe a slightly suggestive one.
21. Cleaning up the kitchen dishes together.
22. Standing by him. When he needs a friend.
23. Staying up ’til midnight wrapping Christmas presents.
24. Bringing him an aspirin. Because he refuses to take ibuprofen.
25. Winking at me. From across the room.
26. Folding his t-shirts. Just the way he likes them.
27. Helping me zip up the back of my dress. A little too slowly, if you ask me. *wink
28. Making love. Even when we’re both rather tired.
29. Admiring his good looks.
30. And hearing his “Hello, Beautiful” too.
31. Allowing him to take the baby. So I can get some much needed sleep.
32. Kissing him on the lips. And staying there maybe longer than necessary.
33. Graciously overlooking that mistake somebody made.
34. Falling asleep in his arms.
35. Waking up by his side.
36. Praying over me. While going into labor with each child.
37. Hearing him announce, “It’s a boy!” and rejoicing together.
38. And, “It’s a girl!” and rejoicing again.
39. Staying up late watching a romantic comedy. My pick.
40. Attempting to stay awake for his action flick.
41. Making French Press coffe for me. Every single morning.
42. Listening to his goals and aspirations.
43. Sharing my hopes and dreams with him too.
44. Asking God to bless him mightily.
45. Laying my head on his shoulder. Because I can. And want to.
46. Cheering him up. When he’s had a long day.
47. Fetching a bowl for me. When I lose my breakfast….for the 3rd time. Morning sickness. Blah.
48. Wiping out the whiskers from his sink.
49. Offering his coat to me at the restaurant. Because I forgot mine.
50. Taking a hot shower. Together.
51. Thanking God for this man in my life.
52. Rescuing me in the Target parking lot. Since the car battery died. Again.
53. Telling me I’m gorgeous. When I’m wearing sweat pants and a ponytail.
54. Spreading toothpaste on his toothbrush. Or he for mine.
55. Sneaking a bowl of mint chip ice-cream. After the kids go to bed.
56. Offering a prayer for me. When I’m anxious in the middle of the night.
57. Scratching his back. Although it’s not my favorite thing to do.
58. Warming up my feet. With his own warm skin.
59. Wrestling with the Thanksgiving turkey. When it’s too big for the oven.
60. Kissing the top of my head. Even when I’ve been snippy. No, especially when I’ve been snippy.
61. Throwing pillows at me. Just for the fun of it.
62. But getting him back later. Because that’s fun too.
63. Hiking to the very top. Then looking down at the world together.
64. Scouring the oven. Because I’ve let it go far, far too long.
65. Believing in me. When I just couldn’t see it.
66. Staying up all night at St. Charles hospital. Wondering if his father will pull through.
67. Making plans for his mom to move in with us. When she no longer remembers who we are.
68. Soaking in a deep bubble bath. The two of us. Or sometimes just for me.
69. Taking the little boys for a hike. So I could have a quiet morning at last.
70. Asking God to give him the strength. When he’s hard-pressed with a deadline.
71. Getting away for a few days. A romantic escape.
72. Stroking my hair. When I’m troubled beyond words.
73. Listening to him sing old Billy Joel songs. Don’t Go Changing.
74. Slipping away to a nearby cafe. An Americano for him and a lavender latte for me.
75. Letting him hold me. When I can’t help but cry it out.
76. Sharing a Scripture verse. When I really needed to hear it.
77. Running out into a hailstorm. Trying to save the tomatoes from certain disaster.
78. Holding the screaming child in my arms. While he speeds all the way to the Emergency Room.
79. Feeling the immense relief. When we find out he’s going to be okay.
80. Taking me for a scenic drive. When I’m desperate to get out of the house.
81. Saying goodbye to our eldest son. Knowing that this is what we raised him for.
82. Handing me a tissue. As I weep on the flight back home.
83. Attending the family reunion together. Wondering who’s the crazy one.
84. Reading aloud to each other. When it’s just too good to keep to yourself.
85. Sitting on the porch swing. Saying nothing at all.
86. Playing cards with his folks. Because it means something to them.
87. Saying I’m sorry. Because I really, really am.
88. Laying awake on the hard dirt ground. Questioning how he talked me into camping in the first place.
89. Waking up by a still, blue lake, green woods and a small campfire. Admitting it was all worth it.
90. Forgiving each other. For the hundredth time.
91. Then letting it go. Another hundred times.
92. Hitting the snooze button. And pretending for a few minutes that we’ve nothing better to do than snuggle in bed.
93. Telling the world how thankful I am to be married to him.
94. Celebrating each anniversary. Truly grateful for every year we have together.
95. Saying I Love You. Every day. Because I do.
Quite honestly, most of our marriage is been made up of these ordinary times.
Small moments that simply say I Love You.
*Do you have an “I love you” moment that you can share? Please do!
In His grace,
Lisa is the happily-ever-after wife of Matt Jacobson and together they enjoy raising and home-educating their 8 children in the beautiful Pacific Northwest. She encourages women to embrace the rich life of loving relationships and the high calling of being a wife and mother. Lisa is the author of 100 Ways to Love Your Husband and her husband is the author of 100 Ways to Love Your Wife. Matt and Lisa are also the co-hosts of the FAITHFUL LIFE podcast where they talk about what it means to be a biblical Christian in marriage, parenting, church, and culture.