You’ve met them right?
The women who pour out truth and kindness on the ready. They seem to have a never-ending reserve of encouragement and knowledge, experience and truth, and it all flows out of them effortlessly.
They are Bible study leaders and teachers, mothers and grandmothers, they are writers and everyday women who seem to have an uncanny ability to know the Word, discern truth and speak life.
I don’t know about you, but when I see these women I contemplate how I might be them when I grow up. I wonder if it would be awkward if I just asked them to adopt me so I can continually soak up their wisdom?
Even as I say that I know God has not called me to be them, He has called me to be the very best me I can be.
But when exactly does that happen?
How exactly do I move from being a young mother, struggling to learn and grow, trying to figure out this life and keep my head above water, to becoming a woman who lives from a place of overflowing—a woman of wisdom?
Thankfully, we aren’t left without answers here. No matter what stage of life we are in, we can always stand to increase in wisdom and there are some simple ways we can grow, right where we are.
7 Ways to Become a Woman of Wisdom
Too simple, right? But there you have it. God told us if anyone lacks wisdom they should ask for it by faith, without doubting (James 1:5-6). Solomon did it and worked out pretty well for him.
What might our lives look like, what kind of women might we become if we committed to regularly asking God for wisdom? (Daniel 2:23)
2) Follow others carefully.
Social media, books, and podcasts give us the opportunity to learn and grow from all sorts of leaders who can become our mentors at a distance.
Follow women who pursue wisdom. Follow women, who follow Him. I have to tell you, Club 31 Women is a pretty great place to start! (Proverbs 13:20)
3) Keep good company.
Find friends of strong character and moral integrity. Spend time with women who are truth-seekers, who walk humbly and love mercy. These are the friends who will challenge you and encourage you in godly wisdom.
4) Pursue it.
Proverbs 16:16 values wisdom over gold, over riches and wealth. Wow.
What if we valued wisdom over immediate answers? Wisdom over quick and sharp responses? Wisdom over band-aids and patches in the rough spots of life, challenges with our kids, with our spouses, and friends?
5) Seize the small moments.
Sometimes we think wisdom comes forth in glorious proclamations and big moments, but wisdom actually shines through in the seemingly smaller moments of faithfulness and steadfastness. Proverbs 3:13 states that our wisdom is shown through good conduct and meekness.
6) Stay Humble.
Plain and clear, Proverbs 11:2 tells us that with humility comes wisdom. In every venture, stay humble.
7) Keep a healthy perspective of time.
In the struggles of sleepless nights, we must remember this won’t last forever.
In the heaping piles of laundry, we must know that time is fleeting and in the challenges of connecting with the hearts of our teenagers we must realize that leaning into to the hard moments is critical and worth it.
From the day we are born our days are numbered and knowing that, living with a careful understanding of that, is living wisely. (Psalm 90:12)
Sometimes we tend to think wisdom is an age or a stage.
Maybe it comes after we are an adult or when we become a mother. Maybe when we turn 50? Maybe it’s comes after our children leave home and or when we become grandmothers.
But we are instructed to seek wisdom right where are. Today. That we may be women filled up to overflowing, seasoning those around us and igniting our world with the wisdom of Truth.
Katie Westenberg is a wife, mother and writer who is passionate about living life bravely for the glory of our Creator and encouraging others to do the same. She enjoys country living in a small town, time spent with friends and family, and saying YES to adventure. She writes at ichoosebrave.com.